It's her grandson or daughther is she expected to get paid for takeing care of them ??? or not
2007-03-20 18:25:19 · 28 answers · asked by What Happen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok how about if I take the food and it's not everyday it's 3 times out of the week , I just feel that grandmom's are glad to spend time with there grandchildern I 'm not self centered I don't have childern but thank 's to every one that answered
2007-03-20 19:03:36 · update #1
I would insist on paying her.
EDITED TO ADD THIS AFTER YOU ADDED ADDITIONAL DETAILS:
You’re still not getting it. It’s not Mom’s RESPONSIBILITY to take care of your child. While Grandmoms do enjoy spending time with their grandkids, they don’t enjoy being USED purely as a babysitter. It seems that you feel your Mom OWES you this. She doesn’t.
2007-03-20 18:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother n law watches my 2 yr old daughter 5 days a week. She voluntered so that we could save some money. So I dont pay her hwoever I do buy her little gifts I send her a card every now and then to let her know how much I love her. I will also take grocery's over at least once a month top help out. I think the adult child should ask thier mother if she wants paid.
2007-03-21 04:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by stormy74115 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too bad she had to ask. Having now to be my sons sitter doesn't really mean that it's a cake walk even though there's nothing more exciting and "tiring" then caring for him. But if I wanted to relax as I usually do on the 5th-6th hour and thensome. I'd still have to pay someone to do what I believe to be my responsibility. And my delight! Naturally we all need to look at the whole picture. Give the funds to some stranger and possibly put kid at some risk or keep it within the household caretakers/relatives vicinity.
2007-03-21 05:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Granddaughter of not, there is never an expectation. If she chooses to watch your daughter you should be very grateful. If she feels you should make some sort of contribution for her time you should respect that. Otherwise, call around to price day care centers and get an idea of what you can be looking forward to pay. I am willing to bet it will be alot more than you think and alot more that what your mother was willing to accept. Even if she doesn't want to be paid for her time. Do some things for her. Take her out to eat, the movies, etc. Goodluck!!
2007-03-21 01:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by spiritius4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should absolutely pay your mother for every day child care. You are very fortunate to leave your child in her loving care each day and not in a daycare. If she invites your son or daughter to stay with her or join her for an activity, that's different, but it isn't fair to "expect" her to babysit a child, even her own grandchild, for nothing. Show some consideration and respect for the contribution she makes in the child's life each day. Make it green! Cash!
2007-03-21 01:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her how she would like to be payed and if she says she doesn't care then take her out every week and spend money on her so she doesn't feel like she is being used.
2007-03-21 11:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by Wanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should certainly offer to pay her and leave it up to her if she accepts or not. How self centered can you be to expect your mother who raised her children to give up her freedom to raise yours without even offering to pay for her time?
You seem to think your Mother owes something to you and your daughter.
I would have to say your Mother failed miserably in one way. She did not teach you that women have value and that she is one of them.
She has a right now that her child is grown and producing children to expect to be child free and be able to indulge herself in the pleasure of some free time.
I think you sound totally selfish, self centered and unappreciative of the lady who raised you. I am appalled!
2007-03-21 01:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If you ask your mother to take care of your kid everyday, you have to pay for your kid's living as your mother is not supposed to feed your kid. You are your kid's mother who responses to take care of your kid. If you don't have enough money or job, why you gave birth at the beginning. Be fair to your parents.
2007-03-21 01:31:40 · answer #8 · answered by Earthman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK heres the rule. DO YOUhave a good job where you can pay her? example 40,000-65,000 a year. BUT if your mother has more then enough to take care of her self then she shouldnt expect a thing.BUT 4 the REcord do offer.
2007-03-21 01:51:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will need to discuss that with your mother.
If it is occassionally that you need her help, then i'm almost positive she would never take money even if you offered.
If it is on a regular basis while you are at work, then that depends on what the two of you agree on.
2007-03-21 02:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by bdazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋