i guess u could say that i'm jealous that he's moved on but i'm always asking our mutual friends questions about the new women he has. Is that wrong? or do some of u out there do it too?
2007-03-20 17:48:13 · 22 answers · asked by justme87 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, its not wrong, its just human nature. This was someone with whom you spent a good chunk of time with and now he is gone, so it is just curiosity. BUT be warned, if you want to move forward with your life, don't let his actions and his current girlfriends consume your life. It is fine for a while, but after that you need to seriously think of positive things that are going to benefit you and moving on in your life. You will soon tire of him once again hurting you by seeing him with all these different people and realize it is not worth it anymore.
2007-03-20 17:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong to care about someone after they have moved on, but keep in mind that you may be putting your mutual friends in a hard spot. They aren't going to tell you if they really like her, or if they are a better fit than the two of you were. Try to move on and remember that if it was meant to work out it would have. If you truly care about him, you'll want him to be happy. Otherwise youre just being a typical ex-girlfriend. Is your behavior something you would be proud to tell your NEXT boyfriend about, or would it scare him away? Think about it.
2007-03-21 00:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by okiemom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are all curious; it is natural to want to know. You will heal faster if you can omit him and anything and info. about him. Try to focus your energy on anything else so you can move on. Trust me; don't waste time and energy in this. The info. will just postpone the moving on. Try this: Get a clear glass jar. Put a button or rock in the jar for each day you do not seek info. If you do seek info., you have to dump the entire jar. The sound of the object falling in the jar and the accumulation will help keep you motivated to stay away. I've done this and the concrete symbol of working through each day really helps. Good luck--change is hard.
2007-03-21 00:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with being curious. You loved your ex and he'll always be some part of your life, and that's why you're still interested in his life - especially his new girl. As long as you don't start stalking their relationship it's totally normal to be feeling the jealousy and curiosity that you're feeling right now.
2007-03-21 00:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by obs3ssive beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong its natural. You obviously still have feeling for him. You should know that by doing this you are not allowing yourself to move on. If you want to move on then you need to stop inquiring because knowing will only lead to more questions and hurt for you in the future. If you want him back then you want him back. You decide and I'm sure youll make the right choice for YOU.
2007-03-21 00:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by tredaze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u r not wrong if it was me i would be doing the same thing. if u r like me u want to know if that bi*ch look better than u LOL or what the hell she has that u don which is probably noting but it not wrong long as u not a stalker or anything like that your just being a woman
2007-03-21 00:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by sexysyi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move forward in your life and forget about it. Do not spend one more ounce of you energy on an ex. He's already taken too much energy from you. Don't allow this to obsess you. There's nothing to be gained from it.
2007-03-21 00:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by MissWong 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope your not wrong, its the human mind!! when i broke up with my first boyfriend i wanted to know if he got a girlfriend!! thank god that was 4 years ago and he hasnt found anyone else since SUCKER!! he he he!! you look to find who hes with to compare yourself with them and then ask yourself the question, what has she got that i dont?
2007-03-21 00:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong or unnatural especially if you had a long relationship but if he has truly moved on you should not search for intel because it is only going to hurt you ma.
2007-03-21 00:52:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some of us out here do it too, but that doesn't mean that its right. It means that you still have feelings for him and that you just want to make sure that he is being treated okay, but you really need to move on.
2007-03-21 00:50:57 · answer #10 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋