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The one that left the toilet seat up and the bathroom door open, or the one who wasn't watching her at all times?

I am told it is just as much my fault as his fault because I wasn't watching her at all times... (sorry... I was cooking lunch). I'm really not trying to steer you in any direction here - I'd like an honest answer because I'm a little dumbfounded here, but I have asked my husband REPEATEDLY to either put the toilet seat down or close the door (and he had the nerve to tell me to do it myself just last night with a different toilet incident) because my 20-month old daughter keeps playing in the toilet... GROSS!!!

PS - I am the one that found her doing this about 2 seconds after it happened...

ALSO - I'm not fighting with my husband and I'm not trying to "WIN" the fight... but I'm right, right? Haha...

2007-03-20 17:47:46 · 24 answers · asked by THATgirl 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting Toddler & Preschooler

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Your so right. My husband does this ALL the time. Its so gross as I have 18 month old twins who LOVE the toilet for some reason. I ALWAYS rememeber to close the door since Im the one who has to disinfect EVERYTHING after they are done "playing". I think if he had to clean everything up he would remember next time!

2007-03-20 17:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by Bl3ss3dw1thL1f3 4 · 4 2

I would like to say that I'd love to have my 23 month old son wash his face period! Good for you for teaching your baby so well about washing. Babies get into things so quick, you'd have to tie her to a chair to Anything done. You should raise the point thta the seat should be down because babies fall in and drown every year and even though it's an accident and no matter how sorry every one is and all the "if only's" in the world nothing brings a baby back. She'll be opening doors soon every one should band together to put the seat down. Knowing the outstanding number of odd and occasionally dangerous things my son has gotten into in only a seconds time I'm with you blame the husband!

2007-03-21 06:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by emily 5 · 1 0

It is no bodies fault.. She didn't get hurt did she?
I found my daughter washing her hair in toilet water. I had to give her another bath. (the bathroom door was closed and the toilet lid down but it happens)
This is the least of your problems because your daughter will get into a lot more things as she gets older.

My kid is 4 years old. These are things she has done while I was making diner or folding the wash in those 4 years that stick out in my mind...
Washed her hair with toilet water with toilet paper...
Washed the cat with the cat's water and shampoo (bubbles everywhere)...
decided to feed the dog gummie bears...
Decided that the cat needed water and held the cats head under water. thank god not for long...
Took the cat for a ride in the baby stroller but ended up accidently running him over him instead...
When painting her room...she decided the cat and dog should be pink and purple...

Thank your lucky stars that she just washed her face in the toilet...... and relax you will laugh about it later on...

2007-03-21 01:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by snugglesrn 2 · 1 0

It is both of your fault. You should have kept an eye on her and he should have closed the door. (puting the toilet seat down won't help she will just lift it up) I am a single mother and am able to keep my son out of the bathroom while i am cooking but it also helps that i shut the bathroom door. What you could do while your cooking shut ALL the doors just leaving the livingroom and the kitchen open makes it easyier to keep an eye on little one. You need to sit down with your husband and tell him that it is not ONLY his fault that you are both to blame. Exsplaine to him that not only could your daughter get VERY sick from playing in the toilet she could also drown. Let him know of the dangers in the bathroom (not only toilet but she could turn on the bathtub, fall into the bathtub and bust her head ope ect ect) Tell him for the well being of your child he realy needs to close the door. Do not raise your voice even if he does stay calm. Do not point blame don't make him feel guilty for anything. You will get him to respond better this way.

2007-03-20 18:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsy 3 · 2 2

This is not the time to fight who win or who lose. But I have to admit that this child is using her brains and very imaginative too...

Remember something. The child has seen someone cleaning their face with water. The child is trying to imitate but the wash basin is too high for her. She has decided that mini pool there is just nice for her.

Work it out with your the other half. Let's all shut the doors to the toilet EVERYTIME after use. Make sure it is being flushed fully before leaving the toilet. And make it clear to him that watching a growing child is as stressful as working too. Dun just blame for the sack of blaming.

Bringing up a child is tough. Dun ever think about who win or who lose in every situation as there will be no end at all.

Work things out together.

Cheer up..

2007-03-20 18:25:37 · answer #5 · answered by aUDREy TTT 5 · 1 1

Definitely the one who left the door open. But since you know your daughter plays in the toilet, you both need to find a solution!

This is actually a serious issue. Toilets can be overlooked as a drowning hazard in the home. The typical scenario involves a child under 3-years-old falling headfirst into the toilet. The U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission
has received reports of 16 children under age 5 who drowned in toilets between 1996 and 1999.

Ask your husband how he would feel if your daughter became one of those statistics.

2007-03-20 17:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by greymatter 6 · 4 2

You are SO right. Its is each individual persons responsibility to close the door and toilet seat after each use. It is IMPOSSIBLE to always watch your daughter, kids can get away in two seconds! Keeping a good eye on her and watching her every second of every day are a little different. And if you were doing something to further promote her well being (cooking lunch for her) then he has no right to say something to you.

2007-03-20 17:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by liebedich85 4 · 3 1

ok I am not a parent myslef yet god willing soon. However I have worked with children for the past 5-6 years and it is no ones fault. There is no right or wrong in this the child is curious thinks its just water and that is does not matter where it comes from. Instead of blaming talk to your child yes he/she is 20 months old but they understand more then you and I both give them credit for. At 20 months he she should be walking as a suggestion get a step stool and show the difference between the too put your child on the potty show it the nastys and then put it on the stool to see the right way. In the process of this you will potty train and show right from wrong. :)

Hope this helps, no one is to blame parents already have so much to do jus find the positive in it and that is that your child is curious, just take the time to fix it instead of balme.

2007-03-20 17:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by lucyvarela_23 1 · 1 2

a bit of both actually mostly his though as he was the one who left the door open but as you said you have had to tell your other half many of times so you should have maybe checked when your 2o month was quite whether you were makin lunch or not silence is never good as mothers we all know that as for the wiping her face with toilet water you have raised a very bright child who has very good hygiene sense although due to what she used you might be laughing but think of it in the sense she was actually cleaning her face she didnt know any different

2007-03-20 22:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by janet d 1 · 0 1

Now what's the point of assigning blame? It won't get you anywhere. Come up with a plan together so something like this doesn't happen again. When one of you is busy (like cooking) you need to tell the other and they are "on duty". Believe me, trying to decide who is at fault is a losing proposition. It's gross but he won't die now just make sure something doesn't happen that could cause serious injury. If that happened neither one of you would ever forgive yourselves.

2007-03-20 17:59:29 · answer #10 · answered by MissWong 7 · 1 2

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