and it really makes me mad because i ask him for sex every night
what should i do or tell him?
2007-03-20 17:41:10 · 11 answers · asked by sexysyi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You, my dear, are dealing with someone who has a psycho-sexual addiction and this behavior will not change for the better unless HE decides that it is a problem-- and seeks help in getting it under control !! And, THAT has a very slim margin of chance in actually happening !!
There are several "key" words within your post here that points very clearly to the FACT that I have stated !!
Actions SHOULD speak much louder than words BUT you are simply refusing to listen !! He is telling you with his actions that he had rather spend time within a fantasy than to share a common reality with you !! I have to point out to you here--- that this actually has nothing to do WITH you --in other words-- there is absolutely nothing that you have done to bring this on -- and since it is a "mind set" thing----I can tell you with some certainty here that he actually doesn't see that it is in any way harming or disrespecting YOU---that is how "blind" to reality that this form of addiction makes one !!
It all centers around the "self gratification" thing --and once an individual is "hooked" on this--- they begin to see this as being as natural as --- having a desert or a cup of coffee !!!!
Now, YOU
you are involved with someone who has a serious problem-- therefore YOU have a problem--- you can choose to live with it and continue to be the "afterthought" in his life and be ready to be more so over time---- OR you can choose to confront him about it and "clear the air"----- and THIS has to be full tilt honest confrontation !! The time is ripe for actual ultamatums here--- either / OR time---- Either this behavior stops (one way or the other) OR I'm out of here !! There can be NO middle ground OR YOU LOOSE !!!!
Sorry to be SO blunt here-- but you did ask-- and I'm not going to lie to you--- this is a deal breaker and one that can make you both absolutely miserable in the long run if it continues on ANY level at all !! So , end it !!!
2007-03-20 18:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
2
2016-07-21 07:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's no longer basically observing porn. adult men do not do this. They watch porn and masturbate until eventually they get off. that's no longer truly a real habit inspite of the actuality that, that's a compulsive obsession to masturbating at the same time as observing porn and is likely harder to end then if he replaced into addicted to some drug because that's a organic function of the human body to favor this exhilaration. i'd imagine in some unspecified time sooner or later in time he may grow drained of masturbating to video clips inspite of the actuality that, each thing receives old ultimately. yet do not ever imagine that's because he would not take care of you or that there is a few thing incorrect with you, "that's no longer you"! that's his problem.
2016-12-02 08:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking him for sex every night then he is not happy with the relationship. There is something else that is missing and it may not have anything to do with sex at all. You should be with a man who will enjoy sex with a partner though. So after you dump his butt give me a call ; )
2007-03-20 17:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you & he have a few drinks and watch the porn
together....Make yourself a part of the entertainment...
What is he going to do after a couple drinks, with a nice
live half naked woman beside him and watching porn ?
If he does not jump on you, call a medic...He could be dead...
If that does not work, tell him you cannot take it any more
and if he does not work on the relationship, you are leaving.
2007-03-20 17:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my ex used to watched porn together but i never watched it on my own when she was home wanting sex. Sounds interesting and i would have to suggest something strange is up with that.
2007-03-20 17:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by whitey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are not happy in your relationship with him and explain to him why.
If he cares for you, then he will make time for you and try to make you happy.
But if he makes no effort to accomodate you, then he doesn't care for you that much. And in that case, I suggest that you find another boyfriend who will want to make you happy.
2007-03-21 21:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long were you together, and did you guys fall into a routine, or maybe he feels. ask him why does he do that and see what he says, talk communicate
2007-03-20 18:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by The 808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find another boyfriend do you know how many guys are looking for a girl that is sexually hot?
2007-03-20 17:52:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and find yourself another boyfriend who will pay attention to you.
2007-03-20 17:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by Miss J 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋