My parents are really strict; I can't got to places with my friends unless my parents met theirs, and if i cant go places with girls because my mom thinks i'll get her pregnant, i think they are against dating in general! They are always nagging me about stuff and they even make me feel unloved and stupid (at least my mom anyways). They really tick me off. I think because of them i will never be able to be as succeful with dating as i should be. They really tick me off! And if i told them the ticked me off they would probably ground me! This has been going on for a long time- and it has been driving a wedge between my mom and I. They don't let me do anything, they don't even let me wear a chain because they think i will get into a gang even though we live in a flourishing community. If i try to talk with my dad he makes me read the bible. please help me. FYI: i'm 13 and i'm starting 9th grade next year( i skipped a grade). Please help me rebuild my relationship with my parents!
2007-03-20 16:53:22 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You ahave to be patient with them and push your boundaries bit by bit. Go on group dates and such. Explain to them that you are going to be in a high school setting will be struggling to make friends and that they need to lengthen the leash. Do not betray their trust and stick your promises with curfews and such. I'm pulling for you! Ps, that first lady's answer was crazy.
2007-03-20 17:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by *superstarstack* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard. I'm in that situation. I'm 20 right now and they won't let me do anything. My mum is the boss of the house. I asked her to sleep over a female friend's house before, and she gave me this stare and said, what for? And she just said no. That was the most unfair thing I have ever heard from an adult. No reason. Just no. And I couldn't argue back otherwise she'd scream the house down and get everyone in a bad mood and not let me out. Just continue to act responsibly, and I think...these types of people are bullies and have no control of their life, so they gotta rule over us. Just rebel against her, little by little, but don't do any bad stuff. Otherwise that will just tighten her grip on you. I'm truly sorry. This kind of thing affects you into your adult life but be strong. You're still young, maybe she will loosen up later. She loves you in her own way, but if you can talk to her, let her know how you feel. Do well in everything, and she will be more trusting. Good luck.
2007-03-21 00:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by Matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey your parents will tick you off and even make you hate them sometimes but they are doing all these things because they really love you and care about you... you will thank them one day that they are treating you this way now... when i was your Age i had noone to tell me what to do and i was homeless and ended up pregnant at age 16 ..please don't rush to grow up so quickly and i hate to say this but it's really true they always say wait till you have KIDS and you'll see what we're talking about...Well once you get married and have kids trust me you'll do the same thing... it's cause of LOVE....look at some of those Kids on the street that noone cares about... they do drugs get into trouble..end up in jail or dead.......i wish you nothing but the best... Good luck and tell your parents you love them...cause they sure love you
2007-03-21 00:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was following right along until I got to the part “I’m 13”. You’re 13! Your parents’ rules regarding going out with friends/dating are more than reasonable. As far as being ‘successful at dating’, you likely will be…when you’re old enough to date! As far as they ‘don’t let you do anything’, obviously they do…they let you go out with friends as long as they meet the parents first. Don’t be in such a hurry to grow up.
2007-03-21 00:10:55 · answer #4 · answered by kp 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much it is all a part of growing up. Your parent's love you allot and they are just trying to prolong seeing you grow up. It won't happen over night but give them sometime and they will come around. Until then try and understand them and show them that you are responsible .
2007-03-21 00:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by Star 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your only 13 years old and so i really don't think you need to worry about hanging out with girls. but it sounds like you are pretty smart if you skiped a ground and so really i think it is just because your parents are really pround of you and want to make sure you reach your full potential but i do think you need to begin living your own life. maybe you should try and let your parents go out for one day and show them how responsible you are. but if they say no don't worry because i am 14 and my parents let me do things by myself and i think it is to do with the whole want what you can't have and i don't even like going out.
2007-03-21 00:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by Chelsea! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
PLEASE DO NOT DRAG BIBLE READING INTO THIS, ALL OF MY FRIENDS READ THE BIBLE ALL THE TIME AND THEY DO NOT PUT RESENTMENT IN THEIR CHILDREN OR LACK TRUST IN THEM, you know you are acting in a way that they do not approve of, stop whining to get your way, be obedient, stop comparing your life to others, you don't need chains. of course they must meet your friend's parents. you are 13 not 18!
they are doing their duty to keep you from becomming wild and foolish, that is ther job, you are a very lucky boy.
2007-03-21 00:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋