So here’s the thing, I baby sit my girlfriends niece and nephew everyday (mon-fri) after school. Their parents both work and so no one except for me can watch them. This is all fine, were all family and we help each other, they're good kids and all but the thing is, they are here ALL THE TIME.
I see them mon-fri, then they want to have a sleepover on Fridays, sometimes all the way till Sunday. When all this happens I end up watching everyone (my son and all the kids). Where are the parents and other family members? Good question, I don't know either I just watch the kids, its expected of me now. They family members have the nerve to say (when the kids are leaving) I never get to see you guys, how come you dont want to stay here longer? I want to say so many things but its family. Heres the thing, when do I get to spend time with mine? Oh and on Sundays, yeah they come over again for laundry or whatever reason. Is it wrong that I want space and family time of my own with just MY family
2007-03-20 16:48:54 · 4 answers · asked by infiniteson 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am the only one that’s home when all the kids (including my son) comes home form school.
I work third shift so I'm home all day. I sleep at 7am and wake up at 2:00pm (that’s 7hrs of sleep, if I get that) After I pick up my son and end up watching all the kids and never get to go back to sleep.
At the end of the week I'm just really tired and I never get any peace or family (my family) time. I feel aggravated at the end of the week. Is this wrong too?
2007-03-20 17:26:14 · update #1
Infinite..." - When you say; "....and so no one except me can watch them",....I find this hard to believe. Surely there are people out there or someone can watch these Nieces and Nephews.
You have your own life, and it's seems like you painted yourself in a corner with your own kindness. You need a BREAK!
Man, I'm sure you are already in the middle of or approaching burn out.
You need to step up and step out. Surely there are better things for you to do for YOU! Where is the avenues for growth and opportunity for you?
Sure, someone needs to watch the kids, but, naturally at some point this is going to wear on you and you may find yourself becoming very stressed and become grouchy and aggravated. It's natural, and not a knock against you or somekind of flaw. This equates to "Cabin Fever" in many ways, and if you aren't living and doing with some balance and space in your own world, it's gonna start to push you into a disharmonious direction.
You need to get to see some of the other colors of the rainbow known as life. Man, surely there are some other alterantive besides you always taking on this level of responibility that can be burdensome for even the most seasoned of Stay at Home Moms or even the Old Lady whom lived in the Shoe!
You need to claim your own title and satnd up. This is your life too, and although it's admirable that you all help each other out..........who is looking out for you ....a.k.a. #1??
I'm asking myself, does he have a career? Does he work nights? Is he even able to have a job, a career, his own vocation?
Man,........I feel bad for you. If the kids' parents are both working, surely they can afford some Day Care. Even if you watched them a couple days a week, and they paid to have them watched the other days, you are still unselfishly still being very giving.
It sounds like for the most part you have a pretty good chemistry with your family and your G/F's family. However; it's time to think prudently for you. You won't be insulting or betraying anyone if you wish to do things for your own self. Everyone should realize that, and hopefully you can tell them that effectively and them understand as they only should.
Good Luck! Hang in there!
2007-03-20 17:08:08 · answer #1 · answered by The Sylvan Wizard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!! Thats messed up!! You shudlnt be watching them all the timmme even on Sundaysss!!! Tell the fsmily or the parents ro whatever, I love wathing your kids, their great, but I need some time to spend with my own kids. It might be awkward but this situation is nuts! Just be realy nice and understanding about it..maybe even offer helping to find a nany or soething
2007-03-20 16:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by Juls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did he kiss you. Did he decide upon up a sign that made him suppose you had been interested. And to name him a jerk and forget about him and deal with him terrible due to the fact he was once a foul kisser and also you did not desire him to kiss you. Give me a holiday. One day karma will chew you within the ***. And sure you're mistaken, manner mistaken.
2016-09-05 10:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you not wrong at all. they are taking advance of you,
and you should let them know that you love doing for them
but you also have a life of your own. and you need your time
as well to do what you want. it only fair.
2007-03-20 18:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋