I was MADLY in love with this girl, she was simply my world, we went out for 2 years, ..even though after the first year, she came to tell me out of guilt she cheated with her 32 yr old boss!!!.. she was only 17, and i was 18 but i took her back :( and i know, now I look back and think maybe i wouldn't be so hurt if i just left from there.. but no i took her back after a week break, only because she told me everything that she did with the guy.....she said there was no sex, but she had no top on, and he was only his in his boxers........ and they just made out and 'felt' around....at his place.... on his bed... :( well so I gave her another chance, but the remaining year was hell... after some time went by, I just couldn't look at her the same anymore, so i finally told her i couldn't go on. but I can't stop bringing myself down because of this whole MESS. and there's a LOT more, this is as simple as i can say. :( Im a really good guy but i releive this pain and its affectin me lots
2007-03-20 16:47:39 · 9 answers · asked by brasilparadice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sure this whole thing hurt me a lot, but Im happy about the person I am because i know she was the one who made the mistakes, and she did them for no reason.. she had problems with herself ever since I met her, but that wasn't a factor because I was ALWAYS there for her to comfort her and support her.. she NEVER got a "B" in school not once, straight A's.., thought i might just let u know that as well.. but I just wanna let it all go... she was like too good to be true for me, but because of her actions, it made me feel WAY insecure about myself. :( any advice would be greatly appreciated, thnx
2007-03-20 16:53:45 · update #1
Almost same thing happened to me.. My relationship lasted almost four years, almost all of high school and some college.. I know some people tell us that we are too young to be in love, but honestly thats bull.. Anyways, I feel for you, it kills when you care for someone so much and they leave you, and even worse cheat and break you in half. It kills and there is no worse feeling I have ever felt. I was destroyed for almost a year, but you know what, everything heals with time, and life always finds a way of working itself out in the end.. Take it as a learning experience, and never stop living your life for someone who didn't care enough to respect it in the first place. Girls will come and go, relationships end sometimes.. I made the mistake of taking back a cheater too and it only killed me in the end. Just tell yourself you deserve better, and you will find better. The best things in life come when you're not looking. Keep your head up, the suns still gonna come up tomorrow.
-Peace
2007-03-20 16:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by St112 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let anyone else hold the key to your happiness. This girl came into your life to show you what love felt like and what it felt like to have it pulled away. Your job was to either fully accept her and not judge her for what she had done or to tell her that you were not capable of be non-judgmental and that you needed to let her go.
What is the source of your pain? The fact that you have no right to judge another human being and yet you continue to judge her. Or the fact that you can't go into her past and undo the mistake she made?
Let her go. Learn the lesson. Don't judge her.
2007-03-20 16:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about your loss, you must give yourself time to grieve the loss of your relationship. it is so painful to go Thur what you are going thru, I've been done it. Be thankful you weren't married and with kids. Time truly does heal all, your pain will subside everyday. It is okay to cry, laugh, be angry, sad ect. DO NOT blame yourself for anything she has done or does, you could not change anything about you to make her not do what she is going to do. keep your head NO DRUG/ALCOHOL they only make things worse. (I know). Don't jump into another relationship right away, give yourself some time and time to heal, also you never know- things may work out between the two of you, she may be truly sorry, figure out why she was acting out and eventually - will be the most faithful, trustworthy, loving wife any man could ask for. Good Luck, My Heart Goes out to you.
2007-03-20 17:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by beverlee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just give yourself some time to heal and get over her, hang out with ur mates or family, do whatever it is that makes u happy and keep yourself busy so u dont think about her. it does get easier with time, i know that sounds hard to believe but it does
2007-03-20 16:51:32 · answer #4 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your first love, Hopefully you'll get over it be strong.I was there once and 20 yrs. later so that same person at a picnic and she did not look as good.
2007-03-20 16:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Juz forger her.. &thanks to god cuz u've broke up with her.. at least she confess &u didnt end up being with her forever.. there r so many nice gul out there.. u may hard to foget d pain, cuz u used to luv her so much.. juz remember..u juz wasting ur time thinking bout her.. TRY TO FORGET.. &may god bless u.. juz keep being a good guy.. mayb one day, u'll meet d right, nice gul.. GOOD LUCK.
2007-03-20 17:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by Eeda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slowly heal yourself by first, forgetting about the girl. second, distracting yourself from any girls at all. and third, going out and finding another girl when you're ready. forget this girl if she's done all that to you
2007-03-20 16:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by miisty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, that's what you get for buying all that open-toe-sandal, liberal crap about women wanting a "nice guy."
it's all LIES
you have to be ruthless. stop being a wimp, grow some balls, and go out there and get some pu__y
2007-03-20 16:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can't take it, let it go.
move on, time heals.
2007-03-20 16:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by ricodzeus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋