My girl friend is an 18 year old virgin, (I'm 21), and she absolutley loves me. I am an American soldier in South Korea, she is Korean, and does not speak a lot of english. It is sometimes hard to communicate with her when it comes to deeper or more complex issues. We've only known each other for 3 months or so. I view dating as a very casual thing, so it takes me a long time to find out if I love someone. The problem is, my girlfriend is extremely in love with me already. She's a really sweet girl, but I'm afraid that if I wait around for a few more months while I decide if shes a keeper, and I decide against it, I may really hurt her. What should I do? Cut and run now?
2007-03-20 16:36:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi, This is a difficult situation since you risk hurting her either way. The trouble is that dating really is not a casual thing. It is courting which is to find a mate. Now a days things are so screwed up and even 'sex' is casual.
I think you just need to keep her informed - that you are not sure about anything yet and then she knows that it could go either way. Be as honest about your intentions as possible. That is fair. Of course she will find that somewhat painful but not as bad as feeling that you played with her heart.
I beg you to let the woman remain a virgin - with no sexual contact? Your question already shows that you have good intentions toward her.
Language is not nearly as difficult as cultural differences by the way, so knowing about her culture better will help you know what you think about a future with her.
Best of luck!
2007-03-20 16:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm.....how come the language barrier wasnt a problem when you started dating her? Barrier or no barrier when we get into relationships we do know that sometimes the other person has fast forwarded and we are still on the previews. So, it sounds like you are afraid of how are things going so obviously you dont fell what she does. Someone is gonna end with a broken heart, and careful, it might be you if after you cut it off you decide shes the one.
Good luck
2007-03-20 16:44:39 · answer #2 · answered by nyenelra 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yo buddy trust me she will get over it. Girls can flake out from time to time. The only why to see her and not really hurt her is not to have sex with her until you know that she is the one. Since she is a virgin and you have sex with her but really don't know if you want to be with her forever it could screw her up big time. Be honest and open about your situation if she really love you she will hang around if not then she won't. After sex she will love you even more, if you are ready for her love don't do her and don't be an A hole. You will feel the pain later it is too late. I know I was hat jerk.
2007-03-20 16:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by flydives 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you have a sister?wat will you do if dat situation happen to ur sister?dude!!!!!! do a right thing....
good luck!!!!!!
AN nyung haseyu!!!!!
2007-03-20 16:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by RJ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋