how do i tell my boyfriend that i know he cheated?

Question

I KNOW THAT MY BOYFRIEND CHEATED ON ME WHEN HE CLAIMS TO HAVE BEEN AWAY ON A BUSINESS TRIP. I NOW WHERE HE WAS AND EVERYTHING. I HAVE PROOF AND THE DATES. I JUST DON'T KNOW HOW TO TELL HIM I KNOW. I HAVE ASKED HIM IF HE HAS CHEATED ON ME, AND OF COURSE HIS ANSWER IS NO. SHOULD I LET HIM KNOW THAT I KNOW ? OR WHAT

Answer 1

Oh my my my...

You are in a sticky situation, aren't you?

I honestly think that you should tell your cheating boyfriend what you already know for sure ONLY if you are prepared to see your current relationship come to an abrupt end.

I seriously do not think that there is any going back after this, do you?

Ask yourself two vital & crucial questions:

1) Do you love & trust him?

2) Would you be willing to forgive him and move on with your relationship?

If so, why not tell him that you have already forgiven him for his indiscretion as long as he is honest with you from here on out & doesn't betray your trust ever again?

Good luck to you!





P.S. Please forgive me for asking but... how did you find out your evidence and how are you so sure it is in fact 100% reliable information unless you hired a Private Investigator or something?!?

Answer 2

Don't lie to yourself Girl. Don't be blind. If you happen to have the proof and everything, why don't you use that against him. If you have already asked him and still he denied about it, then it's time for a sweet but nasty revenge.. think of a plan that would make him wish he wasn't born like doing it in the public. You only live once so live if wisely, don't live in misery as it will consume you eventually. Don't be afraid of losing that cheater. He is definitely not worth your time and lovin'. Breaking up would be hard to do but if you found someone great then you'll forget and even laugh about this guy in the future. trust me, you are beautiful no matter what. don't let him take control of you! I wish you all the luck :) Hope you'll get rid of him so you can teach him a lesson. ;p

Answer 3

YES YOU SHOULD LET HIM KNOW! are you crazy?

And first off, you shouldn't be the one worrying about how to tell him you know about it... Just fu*king lay it out on the table. Don't sugar coat it, don't hand it to him on a silver platter, and DON'T be nice about it... HE cheated on YOU, remember this... It doesn't matter how you say it, because no matter what happens, you're right and he's wrong. He should be the one worrying about what he's going to say to you once you speek up, not the other way around. You could write a message in a bottle and shove it up his ***, and it still wouldn't matter how you told him, because he would still be the wrong one.

And after you tell him, loose him. If you don't, then he'll think it's okay and do it again... If you really mean anything to him, and he really loves you, then he will try and get you back. If he doesn't, then you'll know what you really mean to him.

good luck!

Answer 4

well yeah! why would you want him to think he can do it behind your back more. that's not right for any body to do that to another person. if you don't want to be with a cheater, you need to tell him. Get angry and show him your proof and let him know how low it was for him to do that to you. If you want to surprise him about it, leave the proof on the sink in the bathroom while he's in the shower. When he gets out and sees it' he'll freak out! Don't be there when he gets out, let him sit there and think about it for a while and feel like an a** hole.
good luck. Don't stick with that loser. Once a cheater, always a cheater!

Answer 5

It all depends on your love and relationship. Where in life, are guys at? i mean, again it all matters if you love him unbelievably so much and he loves you the same way and you guys have a goal in life. Listen, no body is perfect and one is always capable of being stupid and get caught up in the moment and do the unthinkable and regrets it after wards. YOU know what i mean? you can always give him the 2nd Chance if you have some thing going and I'm not definitely saying he can keep screwing around. You're just being a wise one to save your relationship. BUT, to clear things out, if you think he's the f***up type and loves you so so, F***HIM, it'll be a waist of time to keep him in your life.

Answer 6

well i would write all the dates and details and all that you say you know and have proof of in a blank book-you know the journal type and thenthe next time he went on a business trip i would wrap it up real nice and give it to him and tell him it will make for some "good" reading on the flight(if he is flying) if not just say it will make for some good reading in your hotel...sounds silly i know but i really would do that.Now if it was going to be too long to wait till his next trip-i would just give it to him wrapped as a gift !!

Answer 7

course he is going to say he didn't cheat don't they always? If you know and have proof that he cheated maybe you deserve some one a lot better!!

Answer 8

I would tell him...then I would leave him. He doesn't have any respect for you if he cheated on you. You'll have trust issues and wonder all the time if he's being faithful or not. Why put yourself through that? Find someone who can be honest and faithful...they are out there.

Answer 9

ok here's what i would do: take all the evidence of him cheating and then do everything with him that he did when he was cheating on u and then start to use your knowledge by testing him and wait until that very minute when he finally breaks to tell him that u knew all along

Answer 10

yes you tell him because if he is suppose to love you and you love him you should tell the truth. but tell him like in a public place just in case he freaks out and gets physical you know what i mean. and if you live toether stay at a friends house or familys house for a night or 2. and i hope you dont stay with him. you probably dont need to be treated like that.im sorry.that sux. well Good luck!!!!!!! and do what shopaholic789 said lol jk