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Question

well it all started that i was stressed out from school and my dad starts to argue why am i acting stupid. i argue that i was stressed out and he told me to shut up. i got really mad and ran away. my mom came looking for me. she found me and then my dad and i arent talking to each other anymore. i cry everyday cuz im such a horrible daughter. today is his birthday and i didnt even say ''happy birthday'' to him. i just wanna commit suicide. my dad and i dont get along. what can i do???? today is his special day. my mom told me he has feelings but hardly ever shows them. im really sad. can someone help me at least.

Answer 1

I grew up without my father, i hope you realize how lucky you are, let him know that you appreciat him, I'm sure it would mean alot!

Good luck!

Answer 2

Stress from school, stress from keeping a job or making sure that you daughter lives well, we all have stress; maybe both of you guys over reacted a little but I can bet you that the stress your father has on his shoulders everyday is bigger and heavier than yours. OK apologize for running away, for not saying Happy Birthday but go and ask him how was his day and then tell him yours. Talking helps to diffuse stress full situations, it helps me to talk to my dad about stuff, he has more experience and knowledge. Give him a hug and say I Love you Dad, can help a lot of situations. Now the suicide part, you have a whole life in front of you to experience, make mistakes, make good decisions; do not stop it so soon. If you want to talk you can IM me any time. Smile.

Answer 3

There's a way in which you can express your thoughts and at the sametime settle your feelings. Go to the store and buy a Bible and a belated birthday card. Write in your card how you want to follow the commanment "Honor thy father and thy mother",but also express how much he hurts your feelings.

Let him know in your card you want to draw a close relationship with him, and ask him what is his suggesting in having a loving relationship between a father and daughter? and tell him these are some suggestions you have.
For example:

Dear Dad,

These are the ways I think we can have a good relationship.

1. What ever I have problem I would like to come to you for help and advice. You will be calm and understanding.
2. If you have a problem with me, you'll sit with me and we can work the problem out together.
3. Support me with your everlasting love....etc...

I think your dad would be very proud of you, because you made the effort to settle the problem. Let your mom of know of the results as well. Someone have suggested calling the suicide line. I called to verified their abilities in helping people. It appears to be a ligetimate service. If you still feel the way you do, first put your troubles into the hands of Jesus Christ. He can help you more than anyone, but if you really need to talk, give them a call. Jesus do work through people as well. 1-800-784-2433 Suicide line.

I personally think you can handle it! I have faith in you to work this out with your father.

God Bless.

Answer 4

Hey girl, don't worry. I have a father who is not very good at expressing his feelings either, and believe me it is difficult at times. From experience, you may first want to calm yourself down. Once you maintain composure, contact your dad via email or by phone and ask him if you two can talk together in private (you don't need your mother there, because this is about your relationship with your father. I am saying this because my mom has tried to intervene between my dad and I, and it had only made things worse). When he agrees, tell him your heart. Tell him how you felt stressed at school, and of how his degrading comments were actually hurting your feelings. Sometimes men, including fathers, don't know how to be sensitive towards their daughters' feelings and will say just about anything that comes to their mind. So be patient with your dad. If you are honest and upfront with your feelings towards your dad, he will turn around and eventually soften up. And don't be so hard on yourself. You are a wonderful daughter, and he loves you a lot. Parents and children will always have rough times; it's part of life. But forgiveness and renewal of your relationship is what is important. God bless and I hope this helps.

Answer 5

Hi, I am a mom of 3 teens, and we have had similar issues. Your dad loves you very much he and your mom would be devastated beyond repair if anything happened to you. Suicide is not an option, so unfair to your family and friends. Put yourself in your dads shoes if you knew he had commited suicide because of an argument this morning. It is so hard being a teen and even harder being a parent. The best gift you can give your dad is a big hug, and an I love you. He wants to live to be 101 and you alive to celebrate each day. keep your chin up, dry your tears, kiss your parents, say your prayers, be thankful, and tomorrow is a new day.

Answer 6

Hi Arlene!

I'm sorry to hear that, dear, but you must come home. Your dad is indeed a strict father. I was once in your shoe, my dad was very strict and rarely show his compassion and his understanding to me. I hope he will eventually understand that you always try your best in school to make him happy and proud of his daughter. Hey, sweetie, don't do anything foolish okay...I understand where you come from. I had a rough time growing up too. My dad always expected straight A on my report card, he wouldn't even happy if I got Bs. If you need someone to let out your sorrow and anger or just need to share your problem, then go head leave me a message on my Y!360 or email me.

I wish both you and your dad will eventually resolve this conflict!

p.s "I am your friend"!!

Answer 7

Love conquers all and one only needs to forgive her father and work on being unstressed in school. Talk to the counselor at school about any issues that you may have and or talk it over with mom. So once you talk it out, then it can be worked out. Buy him a gift and say dad this is for you and I'm sorry for the delayed happy birthday to you.

Answer 8

Whoa whoa whoa! If you're seriously suicidal, call this number right now.
1-800-784-2433 ok?
Men don't show their feelings, so just because he doesn't tell you he cares about you, trust me. HE DOES! And he would be crushed if you killed yourself. Go up to him, give him a big hug, and say, "Happy birthday dad, I'm sorry I've been such a jerk."

Suicide is NEVER the answer.

Good Luck!

Answer 9

you arent horrible just upset. after you wash your face go in and give your dad a big hug and tell him happy birthday and that you love him. just remember dads dont know how to act very well with daughters. they dont understand all the mental things that we go through. you can pull your mom aside and tell her that you need someone to talk to to get your feelings out and she will be able to help more cause she has been there. dont give up on your dad he does love you just remember he is only a man. good luck and god will help too

Answer 10

You need to sit with both your parents especially your dad and tell them how you feel,tell him your not stupid, but just stressed from school.Wish him happy Birthday and tell him he needs to be more open with his feelings.Tell him the reason why you ran away,plan activities that the both of you can do together.tell him that you cry every day because he makes you seem like a bad daughter and your not.Tell him you love him,and he needs to take time out to know how you feel because your getting older.

Answer 11

Arleen you didn't say how old you are..... but first your Dad should never have said you were stupid. And remember him saying that put it on his heart. And for you to want to commit suicide is just wrong. We all say things that make us mad or if we have had a bad day. Forgive him and let it go. When my kids said that to me when my ex and I divorced that they hated there Dad I always told them that if that's what they felt it was on there heart. Something they had to live with inside. You never know how long we are here for....
I hope this helped..
A prayer for you..