I met someone on the Internet, and we've been talkin on MSN for a long time. Trouble is, I've never seen her, but I've been half making plans to go and see her at the end of April. She lives in Portsmouth and I live in Manchester. It's going to cost over £80 just to get there and back. Should I make the plans final and go and see her? Or should I just forget it?
I've already thought about what could happen if I go to meet her. I know that meeting people from chat rooms is probably not the wisest thing to do, and it isn't the safest thing to do, but I keep thinking about what might happen if I don't meet her. What should I do?
2007-03-20 16:27:40 · 36 answers · asked by HiFi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not actually bothered about how much it's going to COST, I'm bothered about if this is going to be worth it. If I go and she turns out to be nothing like I think she is, then I may have wasted my time (unless she is better than I think she is).
2007-03-20 16:33:33 · update #1
go. what have you got to loose? Oh yeah, £80. I forgot!
OK, stay at home and wonder what shes like forever......
2007-03-20 16:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're intrigued. Go see her but tell her it's on a business trip and you're not sure how much time you'll have. Meet her at a coffee shop (or some place quiet and low key). See if at first meeting it's worth it and if so ask her to dinner.
If all is going well at dinner it's more than acceptable to tell her that the business trip was a ploy in the event you two didn't get along. I'm sure she'll understand - I wouldn't be surprised if she had a ploy or two of her own (ie phone call from girlfriend about an 'emergency').
If it's a waste you have your fall back plan of not having to spend more time with her. If you don't go you'll always wonder.
2007-03-28 08:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by |sojourn| 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my man on the internet, in a chat room too. We talked for ages on the phone and I liked his voice. I had never seen a picture of him but I travelled for two hours to meet him. I knew it was him as soon as I saw him, don't know what it was but I just knew. It was like we had known each other for years and it was so natural. We have now been together for nearly two years and I thank god I plucked up the courage to go and meet him. He's my soulmate, my friend and my lover. Nothing ventured nothing gained. If it does not work out romantically at least you may have found a good friend. Good luck x
2007-03-27 00:00:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Isis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wrote weekly to a woman over a nine year period and we
became close but I let her go once her time ended inside a
correctional facility for women. I never saw a face or heard her voice. She would be in her 40's now, blond, with a firm
rangy build. Should I have seen her? After all those intense
letters I felt we knew each other too well. That's my take.
If you have questions then go ask the lady. Person to person.
2007-03-26 14:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since money is not your main concern, why not, just be careful, agree to meet in a public place, never somewhere alone, you don't know what people might try. If it does not work out, leave. At least you won't be wondering what you missed out on and you won't keep wasting your time, if it does work out, bravo for you. Good luck
2007-03-20 17:16:03 · answer #5 · answered by TheatreFan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could only go and see if you can be friends on a face to face basis you don't say your ages I hope you are careful how about arranging to meet half way see what her response is to the suggestion?
it might make it easier to decide whether travelling all the way to pompey is worth it
2007-03-28 03:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by Dilili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would, whats life if sometimes you don't take the chances that are offered to us,
At the end of the day if nothing happens between you too you may become good friends,
At least if you do you will have no regrets or wonder "what if"
Go and have fun we only live once, what have you got to loose?
2007-03-27 23:09:40 · answer #7 · answered by blondegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By asking this question you're having doubts. the best thing to do would be to meet her half way? then it shows she's serious about making the effort to see you too (plus youknow its not one sided then).
If you do go to see her, make sure that you tell someone where you will be going and that you do it safely.
2007-03-20 22:13:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go what have you got to loose, she might be the"ONE" and if she's not then at least you'll have a friend wont you,if it doesnt work out then you know you dont have to go back but just imagine walking up to her, she turns around and there you r ur eyes meet and the sparks fly, that would be lovely ah, and 80quid well spent. good luck
2007-03-27 22:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by fay y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I think it might be a good idea to ask for pics of her. Have you thought that she might be feeling exactly the same way that you do, apprehensive, nervous, excited etc. At the end of the day, as long as you keep yourself safe, you could end up having a great time and wondering what all the fuss was about.
Whatever you choose to do, I hope you are happy.
xMorsel
2007-03-20 17:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by Morsel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could you not get her to send you a picture?? Also if all you're worried about is how she looks - then I dont think you're in this for the right reasons - so maybe you should just put your 80 quid towards a night out in your local pub - at least there you can see the goods before you get involved!
xx
2007-03-21 00:33:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋