What should i do..?

Question

I love my bf but i've having major problems at home, financially and emotionally (i'm 19 btw) i want to go to college but i don't have a car, trying to get a job but still, having problems with getting a car. I've been with my bf for almost a year and he thinks moving in is too soon even though it would be a tremendous help for me both ways.

am i being selfish by being upset that he doesn't want to help by moving in or is that a huge obligation? i mean a little apartment or something. we get a long great so i don't see what the problem is. It's really upsetting but why doesn't he see this would benefit both of us and help so much for me. is this just selfish of me

Answer 1

i know a little help from your bf wouldn't hurt at this point,but look on the brighter side - this is gonna make you fiercely independent.you seem like you have enough determination to take you a long way. so don't give up. the efforts and struggle you go through at this time, pay off. so just keep trying to get a job and im sure you'll get a car soon too. leave you bf alone and don't pressurize him.

Answer 2

I think he should just suck it up and move in. I mean everyone know that living together is very beneficial and like you say you get along so i say you are right to be upset with him not wanting to move in. I am kinda in the same boat.

Answer 3

asks him what is what he really wants to do in this case you dont know for sure if he has his reasons for not to move in...make sure he is telling the truth for a personal experience is not good to force things, is better when they are the ones that ask to move in...

Answer 4

hes not ready for that. he probably sees it as a commitment hes not ready to make. you have only been with him for a year. wait another year.