Are you ashamed when you have to say that you are not working. I'm ashamed at times and proud at other times. It can be very frustrating because I would like to be a tax payer and feel i'm more a contributing member of society but then there are days I feel I am an important member or society in raising my child and taking care of my family, especially since my husband seems to need me to hold down the home front as he travels a lot. How do you overcome inferiority?.
2007-03-20 15:44:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, i sometimes feel ashamed to tell people that I don't work. I feel like they look at me either like I'm lazy, or I have it so good. They say how lucky i am and how nice it must be. In my situation it is a huge financial sacrifice to me. Remind yourself how important you are. How would your family survive without you? and doesn't it feel great to know you are always there for your kids? when my oldest daughter is in school, it is such a relief to be here when she gets sick, or for early dismissal.
2007-03-20 16:06:37 · answer #1 · answered by pchiz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never feel inferior. We have the hardest job ever and we are definitely a very real contributor to society. We are raising the next generation. I'm proud to say I'm a SAHM. I think that most woman and men probably envy that. Especially in this day in age when it usually takes two incomes to keep a household afloat. I really think that most woman would love to be able to take care of their children instead of the 9-5 job. Never feel inferior, feel honored and privileged to have the opportunity. That's how I feel.
If I feel like the other person is insulting me, I just assume they are jealous and forget about them. I know what I do is important and so does my husband, and ultimately our opinion is the only one that counts when it comes to our family. And anyone that knows me knows I love my kids, but I'm happy to talk about things that don't involve my kids. I love them to death, but I also realize not everyone wants to talk about them all the time. I enjoy my nights out with the girls too. Just because I'm a mom doesn't mean I forgot how to interact with adults.
2007-03-20 22:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you have the best of both worlds, be a stay at home mom and still work. I know there alot alot of BullSh.it companies out there but if you really want to do this I can teach you where to go to make some money. Its legal doesnt cost anything anyone can do it and its not immoral and you can work at your own pace probably wont get rich but how proud you could be when people ask you ..you can say I am a stay at home mom who works a job on the internet..then you will also have a little extra spending money and Im not talking anything about survey crap or anything like that.. There is a market for this and you can do it and be proud of what you do, Personally I have 4 ONLINE jobs, and I work outside the house I make more at my online jobs and still have time to gab on here for free..Email me.
2007-03-20 23:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by Dana D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God Himself said the wife is to be the keeper of the home, this is your role in life, or at least until you feel comfortable going to work and the kids are in school. Actually it would be even better if you could homeschool them, any mom can do it. This is the best gift you can give your children , yourself and your time. You gave birth to and are rearing a future, tax paying member of society. Look at the moms dropping their kids off with strangers at day care, they should feel ashamed, not you. Not all have to work, many waste their money. look at the house /husbands, they should be out working not being feminized at home changing diapers. i lived also in other countries you see this mostly in the states. My hubby is working in the MidEast, [not military] i am only too proud to keep his [our] home for him, he can relax and trust me as he should, to run things effectively. Our son had a firm foundation in life, knowing mom is here. Our home is not cold and empty, his meals are not from fast food places. 95% of my friends are home but the ones who work, work in an office, w/no manual labor, and they are always tired and stressed from work, and from their boss. To feel inferior is to insult Gods plan for you. This world is against solid family values, trust me.
2007-03-20 23:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have always worked, but for the past year, i have been a stay at home mom, I am currently 8 months pregnant and I feel blessed and fortunate that I am able to stay at home. I get bored sometimes, but i find other ways to overcome that. I wounldnt have it anyother way. you shouldnt feel ashamed to say that you are a devoted mother who prefers to stay at home with her child. Youd be surprised at how many women would love to be able to stay at home but cant. You should feel blessed and Enjoy your time with your child. Now is the time to make everlasting memories. One day your child will thank you for being such a wonderful caring mother. Good Luck and God Bless
2007-03-20 23:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough because even if you are proud of what you do, other peoples' responses can seem rude and condescending.
If you really can't stand "I'm a stay-at-home-mom," tell them about your hobbies instead. Say "When I'm not with the kids, I do a lot of photography," or "I'm learning Spanish," "I'm writing a book," etc.
Sometimes when people say they're stay at home moms, other feel like they wouldn't have anything to talk about. Mentioning hobbies instead opens up conversation.
2007-03-20 22:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋