what can i do to make myself be more confident in asking a girl that i like. when it comes to talking to girls i just stay very quiet around them
2007-03-20 15:31:54 · 13 answers · asked by conkerman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be yourself, look into their eyes, not their feet and especially not somewhere in the middle, don't be disgusting.
2007-03-20 15:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by Spearfish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a girl mistakes a guy's quietness for conceitedness. I remember my hubby was a quiet guy when we first started dating, but he was friendly and showed good manners, respect and a warm smile. SO just be yourself when you ask a girl out so she can see you are for real. Most decent girls are looking for sincereness. Now if you get turned down for a date from time to time, dont let it flatten your self-esteem. It's your decision to ASK and it's the girl's decision to ANSWER truthfully. What if a girl that you consider not your type approach you and asked you out and you really didn't want to go out with her, would you say yes just to be nice or would you say no so she wouldnt feel misled?
Dating can be an emotional roller coaster if you dont already have goal and standards what you are looking for in a companion.
PS: When out on your date tell her up front that you are not big on making small talk. She will appreciate knowing that that is the reason for your lack of conversation and it will put her mind at ease.
2007-03-20 22:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by ODP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the problem. Nothing turns a woman on more than a man's confidence. Women love a man who can carry himself well. If you are quiet all the time, you are going to come off as shy, insecure and reserved. To make yourself feel more confident, dress nice, smell good and keep yourself well groomed. It's all in your approach. Find some confidence within and go for it!
2007-03-20 22:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by Skye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you just have to believe in yourself. Begin asking her just a stupid thing, then start moving on talking with her about what you do or ask her something, and like that, if you do that you will have more trust in yourself and won't be to shy to talk to her for the next time!! It really works, but don't stay to much time talking with her because you will get her bored and that will be very bad for you.
2007-03-20 22:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by lizsy_rockin45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no easy way to talk to a girl, just like there's no easy way to talk to a guy. When you do go up to talk to her, keep a few things in mind. First, your life is not based around her. You can live your life just fine if she never even noticed you.
Second, that which does not kill us makes us stronger, and indefinately wiser. Third, if she turns you down, its not the end of the world. Its her problem if she cant see how great you are, not yours. Just be yourself and you'll be fine. Good luck ;)
2007-03-20 22:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confidence is a state of mind. The way you look at yourself. Be positive by saying to yourself i am attractive, i am not shy, and i can do it.
Practice it in the mirror and starting to be extrovert in your home or classroom could be a good start. Just let the conversation flow, dont force it , dont plan it, just let go and believe in yourself.
2007-03-20 22:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by BigBro Paul 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't sound like you're mature enough to be dating yet from the way you are quiet and apparently nervous. you should try being friends with the girl you like first, this would eliminate the lack of confidence because you would know her better.
2007-03-20 22:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me too brother. I love talking with girls. I just can't ask them out.
2007-03-20 22:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by jmanjman47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first comment guy is absoulutly right!! just talk about ur interests or something that happened at school or work.
whatever you do, do NOT talk to her while looking at her chest. thats so freaking disgusting and turns off most girls...
you are talking to her, not her chest.
2007-03-20 22:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by confused_mexican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some girls are attracted to quiet guys
2007-03-20 22:37:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋