I want to get a tattoo but my spouse doesn't like them. I've had piercings in the past, and though nothing was said about those, when I bring up getting more, (I had to take them out for an MRI and just never put them back in) my spouse thinks I've outgrown them. There isn't anything meaningful I want to get tattooed, I just want to do it for fun. I'm 25, have I outgrown this? And is it worth causing trouble with my spouse?
2007-03-20 15:30:11 · 22 answers · asked by Bravo 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Tattoos
I don't think it's worth causing conflict with your spouse. I personally think that eventually everyone out-grows tattoos. They shrivle up, or you end up not liking it later on.
2007-03-20 15:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Hmmmm. Tricky.
I have tattoos. I haven't got a husband. However, I did nearly have one, at one point, and lived with him for four years. He wasn't all that keen on my tattoos that I had at the time, and though I was interested in getting more I knew he wasn't keen, so I didn't. He eventually dumped me anyway for no particular reason.
So, on the one hand, I can see your problem, and why you wouldn't want to get a tattoo if s/he has a problem with them; I basically did much the same thing.
On the other hand, my perspective now (a couple more tattoos later) is that it's my body, I'll do what I like with it, and anyone who objects clearly doesn't know me all that well, and nor should they really get to have a say in what I do with my skin. There's no way, in any future relationship, that I'll let myself be dictated to in that way again.
Maybe that's not particularly helpful, throwing both those thoughts at you. What I would also say, though, is that if you aren't really set on any one thing and are just after 'fun', then maybe you could work up to a permanent tattoo by way of temporary body art like henna or airbrushing. This would give you an opportunity to experiment, and your spouse a chance to get used to the idea over time, and perhaps overcome his/her concerns.
Hope this helps!
2007-03-21 10:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by Marzipan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that though you are married, it is still your body and your right to get a piercing or a tattoo.
If he gets pissed or leaves you over something that trivial, it would say a lot about him. I think he's over exaggerating this because I've known people with his mindset. Once they saw the piercing or tattoo, they lightened up about it and realized its really NO big deal at all. Plus, with piercings, they can come and go easily so that shouldn't be an issue at all. Tattoos can be kept discrete and tasteful and I don't see it causing issues.
I say go for it, but that's just what I'd do in your shoes.
2007-03-21 13:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it is possible to "outgrow" tattoos. some people mature and no longer like them but most people who get them for the right reasons love them forever. i had tattoos when i met my husband so i can't really put myself in your position but if i said i wanted a tattoo somewhere and he didn't want me to get it then i would be sad but i wouldn't go against what he wanted. but he does like my tattoos and so far hasn't objected to any of the tattoos i have wanted. also, my husband is 29 and got his first two tattoos this past year so 25 is definitely not too old to start getting tattoos.
BUT if you don't want to get a tattoo for a particular reason you may end up not liking it in a few years. the ones that don't have meaning are usually the ones that are regretted. i hope you are able to come to a good decision with your husband.
2007-03-21 07:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're just getting a tattoo for the fun of it you should probably just wait it out just to avoid the drama because if you get it and then a few years down the line you don't like it, you'll end up getting the I told ya so speech. But if it's something that truly means something special to you then go for it because this way in the end there will be no regrets....and who knows, maybe he'll grow to love it as much as you do. Good Luck!!
2007-03-21 01:52:20 · answer #5 · answered by Melanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A question:
Does he mind if you change your hair color, change your clothing style, completely bail on the idea of makeup (or go wild if you prefer)? Yes, a tattoo is permanent, but these changes are more visible.
A relationship is a compromise, and we sometimes pass on what we'd like to do - and do things we wouldn't normally. If he returns the favor, then I'd say this may fit under such as you mention it isn't a big deal. But, if he's not willing to give up/do something for you, well...
It's a two-way street, or at least should be.
2007-03-20 23:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, at 25 you have definitely not outgrown them!!!! My Uncle just got his first one at 41 lol!
I would take into consideration they're opinion of why he/she doesn't want you to get them done, but ultimately, it's your decision. It's your body. If it's something that you REALLY want, do it. If your spouse truly loves you, than he/she will accept it, even it they are a little ticked/upset at first. They should respect that you are old enough to make your own decisions, and you are your own person still.
2007-03-21 12:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'd def not worth the conflict but if you really want a tattoo, id say go for it and get one it is your body after all, just compromise with him possibly on a well hidden spot, tiny design, etc..
My boyfriend doesn't like tattoos either and his opinion matters a great deal to me but i still have 5 and planning to get more.
Funny thing is he likes my latest cause its a cluster of flowers with 2 interlocking hearts which represents our love for one another.
Guys are weird, one minute they don't like something and then all of sudden if it has some meaning behind it they think its cool.
Good Luck
2007-03-20 22:51:31 · answer #8 · answered by Meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. A tattoo would never be THAT important to me but my spouse's comfort certainly would be. If a tattoo is highly important to you, then do it. This is, of course, the logic my mother used when trying to get me to turn down my stereo as a teenager... "Is listening to loud music more important to you than the comfort of your younger sisters, or your elderly neighbors? If it is, then by all means, turn up the stereo."
2007-03-20 22:36:08 · answer #9 · answered by brassinpocket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, there is a fun, playful age for those things, then the age where it becomes trashy and too much. If you want one, but your spouse has a problem with it, you should try Henna tattoos. They don't last as long, but they are still fun:)
2007-03-21 01:38:42 · answer #10 · answered by Amber T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I just got another tattoo about a month ago. My husband told me if I did he would leave me. I still have a husband. My feeling is it is my body and if I wnt to get one it is up to me. Just make sure when you get it you get one that is nice to look at. You could even get it where only you and your husband could see it. Make it something for both of you. Something that would have a nice meaning to you both. My latest was a picture of my dog. It was just her face and I had it done on my calf. It looks great. I also have a rose on my left breast.
2007-03-20 22:57:53 · answer #11 · answered by Miss Lynda Alaska Floozie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋