me and my boyfriend have been going out for 5 months, today. and we are both in high school. recently, we have been talking about taking our relationship to a further level, and i am still a virgin. i am a little nervous, but i know i love him very much. do you think it is time?
2007-03-20 15:30:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are a hundred percent sure you love this dude and you know he loves you too then do it but only if you know your ready. Dont make the same mistake i did because i thought the guy that took my virginity loved me but it turned out all wrong. Just listen to your gut feeling, not your mind. Just remember once its gone you can NEVER get it back so make sure this is actually love and not lust. No one can tell if its time or not except you so just think long and hard about it and make sure your making the right decision.
2007-03-20 15:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that sex is a big responciabilty, and it can change things in a relationship very much, it can make it better or worse. Only you know if you are ready, and if you feel that you are, go talk to your doctor, or a school counciler or nurse, make sure you know about birth controll and STD's. Make sure that you can have an open conversation with him about this and make sure that you use protection no matter what he says! You have the right to say NO if you dont want to, realy think this through, It can and will change your relationship alot.
2007-03-20 15:43:22 · answer #2 · answered by sastelmach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO,
WELL I WOULD SAY NO TO THE QUESTION YOU ASKED.....I WAS 15 AND LOST MY VIRGINITY AND BY 16 I WAS PREGNANT BY MY FIRST......NEEDLESS TO SAY HE LEFT ME AND WE WERE VERY YOUNG TO EVEN THINK ABOUT A CHILD BUT I HAD HER ANY WAY.....IF AT ALL POSSIBLE I WOULD TELL HIM IF HE RESPECTED YOU HE WOULD NOT ASK FOR SEX..... MY EX PUSHED THE ISSUE WHEN WE SKIPPED SCHOOL TOGETHER AND HERE I AM WITH A 11 YEAR OLD AT THE AGE OF 27 AND I HAD NO CHILD HOOD OR TEENAGE YEARS BECAUSE I HAD A BABY BY THE TIME I WAS 16.....AND NO I DID NOT DROP OUT BUT IT WAS VERY HARD FOR ME TO FOCUS ON MY HOME WORK WITH A BABY RUNNING AROUND DEMANDING MY UNDIVIDED ATTENTION.......SO IF AT ALL POSSIBABLE I WOULD TELL HIM HE NEEDS TO WAIT AND IF HE CAN'T OR TRIES TO TALK YOU IN TO IT THEN HE ISN'T WORTH THE BREATH TO WASTE ON HIM......SORRY TO BE SO BLUNT BUT THAT IS HOW I FEEL....HE NEEDS TO RESPECT YOU AND YOUR WISHES AND A MAN SHOULD ALWAYS PUT THE WOMANS NEEDS FIRST AND NEVER PUT HIS NEEDS FIRST....JUST MY OPINION
2007-03-20 15:41:47 · answer #3 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i think you are too young and havent been with this guy long enough to give him that which is so precious. However it is totally up to you and nothing i or anyone else says is going to change that fact. If you do decide to have sex with this boy, make sure it is something you want to do, not something he is telling you to do, make sure you are not doing it with him so he doesnt go elsewhere or break it off with you, boys like that arent worth wasting your time on. Above all make sure you respect yourself the whole time and use protection!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-20 15:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by suzi Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOooooo the same thing happened to me and we broke up, a week after we had sex, if you are ready do not cry or he will leave you. Wait at least a year more, to be sure, or at least by the time you graduate from high school.
2007-03-20 15:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by Cutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should! Take an adventure in life and experience new things in life. If you don't feel ready, give it some time. You make the decision. hoped it helped!
2007-03-20 15:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by Kelsey K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are asking someone else if the time is right, it probably isn't time. you will know truly in your heart when it is time. ask yourself this, if you and your bf end up breaking up, would you still regret having sex with him?
if you do decide to sleep with him make sure you use a condom. and if you all continue to have sex regularly, I'd get on birth control to make sure there are no accidents. it's worth it!
2007-03-20 15:35:38 · answer #7 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? only you can make that decision. what do you feel taking your relationship to the next level will do for your relationship?
2007-03-20 15:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but high school is still too young for sex, no matter what the current generation is doing. I'm afraid you will regret this. :-(
2007-03-20 15:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he a virgin? only do it when u are 100% sure about it... dont do it in pressure...
2007-03-20 15:37:17 · answer #10 · answered by Sagar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋