My girlfriend of 5 years last night decided we needed a break. I am an active person in my church and have a strong faith. Just recently she started going to another church that is somewhat fanatical (and you know what i mean). She went on a trip with some girls from her small group and they asked about me. They asked if I was on the same level religously as she is. She said no. Then the girl proceded to tell her that God told her to leave me because she cant give God her whole heart if i have a big peice of it. We have always been in church, its just recently she has changed drastically. She told me last night that we are unequally yoked and she needs time to further her relationship with God. Doesnt unequally yoked mean a believer with a non-believer? It doesnt add up.I also want to add that every girl in her small group does not have a boyfriend. Her mother and sister think she is taking things way too far.What do i do at this point.Is it a phase?Whats goin on?
2007-03-20 15:07:16 · 7 answers · asked by markspark 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is not a cop-out. This girl has gone christian fanatical. You cant have a normal non-God conversation with the girl...im not saying that is bad but i can talk to my preacher and he can have a normal conversation
2007-03-20 15:14:28 · update #1
dating for five years, that is a long time, how old are you guys anyway? I would give it some time, let her go the way she is going and you can concentrate on some other things in your life that need some attention, other friendships or relationship that need some time b/c you have been dating for five years, this gives you the opportunity to be with family and friends, if it is just a phase, she will be back, if not, she will continue on the track she is on, but if I were you I would stat hanging out
with some new people, some old friends and family
oh, just read akbebe's answer good point, maybe it is a cult?
2007-03-20 15:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This almost sounds like she is in a cult...and yes being unequally yoked means being in a relationship with a nonbeliever so that is TOTALLY wrong cuz u r a believer and she is too. And plus, I dont like the way the girls asked her if u r on the same religious level...who r they to judge?? They dont know what ur relationship with God is like and ur gf should not have said that she is "higher religiously" than u cuz any lover of God knows that there r NO levels. my mother always says that "We do not have a religion, we have a relationship!" (I love that saying) And if ur gf cant give her whole heart to God because she is with u, why did God create Adam AND Eve...He created Adam and eve because Adam needed a companion so if God wanted Adam to focused solely on God then why did He create Eve? I dont mean that u dont have to acknoweledge God but u shouldnt break up with someone because u cant give ur heart fully to God....that is bull. So I think that ur ex is in a cult cuz it sounds like whatever the girls say, ur ex does. Cults are very deceptive very very deceptive so beware not to get caught up in it and try really hard to get ur ex out of there. It is not good and soon the cult will be controling her and she might even lose her relationship with God cuz of them!! I know that I wrote alot but I can NOT tolerate cults and I know what they can do. My friend used to be in a cult and they sabatoged her relationship with her family and friends cuz of the same reasons ur ex broke up with u.
So u need to affiliate with ur exs family and somehow get her out of that cult!!
2007-03-20 15:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man that bites, well I think your heart knows the truth and God has saved you from a major mistake and be thankful for that. Any person that puts what others tell them to do and that God wants them to do it and they do it is just not dealing with a full deck. There are other women out there that are just dyeing to find an honest Christen man that has common since. You need to just look around and believe in yourself and ask God for direction. God Bless...
2007-03-20 15:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by Johnny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her some time to figure out how she herself feels about it, it sounds as though she's being heavily influenced by her new group of friends. I go through the same kind of thing with my girlfriend with her being unsure at times. In my case however all her friends want her to stay with me and she herself has admitted to just "being stupid." Take comfort that you haven't done anything wrong... and if she just happens to decide against being with you, you wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you anyways. Good Luck
2007-03-20 15:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by Robert V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen girls using God as an excuse. Next thin, they have a new BF. U noe wut? u should truly ask her why she is breaking up with u. Maybe she got bored with u, maybe she found someone else but cant tell u becos she doesnt have the courage. Just give her her break, and u should see behind wut she really does. Kind of like stalking, but well...to see if she is meeting someone else and stuff, u noe?
2007-03-20 15:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by Marty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask if they serve Kool aid at her church?
2007-03-20 15:12:18 · answer #6 · answered by artic ranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't deserve you, you're too good for her:)
2007-03-20 15:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by sweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋