I read some of her e-mails and they were pretty bad. I think she might go and make the biggest mistake of her life: loose her virginity. I really care for her and I do not want her to make the wrong desion. HELP ME!!! what can i do to help her. without letting her know i was reading her e-mails.
2007-03-20 15:02:16 · 11 answers · asked by Nameless 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There really isn't anything you can do. It's up to her to decide what to do with her life. Believe me, I don't really listen to my friends advice. I just make stupid mistakes anyway. All you can really do is be there for her if she does get hurt.
2007-03-20 15:08:51 · answer #1 · answered by micha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all what you did was an invasion of privacy that is one reason we have passwords etc.
Secondly I would just tell you have heard some bad rumors about this guy and all he wants is to take her virginity then he is gone. I actually knew a guy like this in High School and well he was a nice enough guy but when it came to the way he treated his GF's was pathetic he poured on the charm until they gave into it took there virginity and he was off to the next one.
I would be honest and tell her you are being concerned for her well-being and all. You don't need to tell her you read her e-mails just advise her to this guy.
God Bless and Good Luck.
2007-03-20 15:10:47 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a friend: you shouldn't have been reading her emails... what she does with her body is her business...
ok now what you have to do is discuss in casual convo your feelings about they guy. ask her what her thoughts are don't make assumptions based on emails that were private and possibly taken out of context...if you press her on the above two issues than it will only motivate her more in spite. even tho you may care about your friend utimately it is her decision and you must be there to support whatever she decides.. even if it means supplying her with a gallon of ice cream, a box of tissues, a load of old movies and a dr. appointment.
good luck
2007-03-20 15:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to tell her. Just tell her you've heard some things about him, and that you want her to be careful.
Then be prepared for her to be mad. Know one likes to hear that they are wrong about the person they like/love.
But ultimately, the decision is hers. If she makes the mistake, chalk it up to a lesson she chose to learn.
But do your part and be her friend. Tell her what you think of him.
2007-03-20 15:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but this type of decision is something she will probably decide on herself.you should take comfort in the fact that you are a good enough person to even try to look for any way to be of assistance to your friend.it shows your inner beauty to all that have taken the time to observe your cries
2007-03-20 15:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by shotwho24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can warn your friend about this boy if you have knowledge that he is really bad news and only out for sex. Then, you just have to let her do her thing and wait. If she runs into trouble, you can be there to pick up the pieces and help her when it's over.
2007-03-20 15:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communicate with your bf with regard to the way you experience approximately Joe if he's of an identical opinion then the two one in all you could cut back ties with Joe in a mature count, yet going into the relationship you knew of Joe and Joe grow to be there in the previous you, so which you ought to appreciate that. that's a decision your bf has to make besides the actuality that it impacts the the two one in all you, in case you do no longer agree together with his determination then you certainly can leave.
2016-10-02 11:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a friend with the same issue....my friends and i tried to help her, we really did. we talked to professional therapists about how to approch her in the least confrontational way...this guy was bad news....she started dating him, and suddenly she was drinking more, then she lost her virginity too him, which she had previously been saving till marraige. she yelled at me when i lost mine. we tried to talk to her, and it got turned around. apparently all her problems were our faults and we didnt care enough about her. she was mad at us because we wouldnt be able to make it to her birthday (we all had legit reasons, it was her 21st, some of us were underage, some of us had work commitments that if we missed them we would loose our jobs, etc, LEGIT!!!!!) and it was still our fault for all her problems...so we gave up. her life has gone down the tubes and she still refuses to believe it was his fault. we dont talk to her anymore but we still have tabs on her though mutual friends. i hope you find a way that doesnt end like my situation, because it was one of the most difficult things ive ever had to deal with.
2007-03-20 15:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her what you think:
it's best for her, even if she ignores you; at least you tried to spot her if you know it's the best thing for her; do it; tell her he is bad news! good luck to you and her!
2007-03-20 15:05:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u must inforce callyflower into her nostrils, this is paneful as heck but its the onl yway
2007-03-20 15:07:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋