Why would a guy not want to be exclusive after going out with a girl for 6 months....we like each other a lot. He doesn't refer to me as a "girlfriend" but says "I'm more than a girl and a friend".....What does that mean? He says he wants to take it slow and see if we can get to know each other better and determine if we could have a longer term relationship. Says I am the best candidate for that so far. I know he is signed up on several dating sites. I want to be exclusive...he does not.
How long does it take a guy to make up his mind??
What the heck is going on with this guy?
2007-03-20 14:58:54 · 16 answers · asked by Patricia 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems like he's afraid of commitment. I know it sounds bad, but a lot of people are afraid of it. I wouldn't rush him. Let him take his time, and make his own decision.
2007-03-20 15:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by xxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months?
This ones easy. He's lookin elsewhere. He has someone else in mind. Its not fair to you, but thats what most of us guys do. Im assuming that you are giving it up already.
Solution: Threaten to stop seeing him. "You dont know what you have until you've lost it"
The downside to that is that he might walk. But then again you'd be better off to end it now rather than hanging around then having him dump you leaving you high and dry.
-Guys like me, dont like to be pressured into a relationship. If we're pressured we'll most likely walk. But ive realized that both sides have to be ready for a relationship at about the same time. sometimes, two may be perfect for each other but just might be the wrong timing.
i hope my insight helped.
2007-03-20 15:06:20 · answer #2 · answered by ray ray 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are but if a man is smart enough to want to take his time, don't try to rush him! Good relationships are built slowly on trust and fly by nighters aren't for the long run. You also should be dating others and not being sexually active with any of them. Slow down girl...a good man is worth waiting for!
2007-03-20 15:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by bevrossg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you asked him.Some men don't to be as you say exclusive they don't to be a one person person they want to have fun play the field.We only have one life and are only young once you and him has a lot of years to become exclusive.To make up his mind.maybe never.You don't need to push a person into anything if you do they want be truthful and you know you don't to start a relationship one sided some one that will not be trustworthy if he wants you and only you then he will tell you.Why don't find someone else see what he does,should tell you a lot.Don't know your age but have fun with life life is short have fun.
2007-03-20 15:13:06 · answer #4 · answered by Douglas R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first started going out with my fiancee now.
It took me a while to accept her as my girlfriend or to tell other people that she was my girlfriend, I mean I wasn't used to having a girlfriend so the word sounded kind of weird to me. It's nothing serious, so you should just give him time, keep standing by him and if he sees that you care and really like him he'll accept that. but don't rush him I advise you that's not a really good idea.
It could also mean that he's not really sure at first. because I felt like that also.
2007-03-20 15:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by Fabo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still wants to play the field; this is why he signed up for the dating sites that you referred to.
2007-03-20 15:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a "candidate"? Dont make him a priority if he's only going to make you an option. You can do one of three things.
First, you can tell him if he isn't monogamous to you, then there's no reason for you to be monogamous to him. Second option, you can give him an ultimatum. Either he's monogamous to you or your through. Third, you can tell him to shove his "candidacy" and dump him. Good luck girl!
2007-03-20 15:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by Samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys do that because they, just like you would like to do, want to make sure they will not fail in their relationships. Take your time and, most of all, be yourself.
2007-03-20 15:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by Carlos M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's using you. If he truely cared for you he'd be thrilled to be exclusive with you.
2007-03-20 15:04:26 · answer #9 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
eww.
he sounds like a jerk.
get him out of your life!
ignore him.
"block him".
do whatever it takes!
he is taking atvantage of you!
and he is probably cheating on you!
2007-03-20 15:01:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋