help..my fiance keeps saying"and stuff like that "in every other sentence,its driving me nuts,how can he stop

Question

please help,every other sentence or so my fiance says"and stuff like that"it makes me cring....ive made him aware of it and hoped he would stop...to no avail.hes 45 years old and has tourret syndrome.a very mild case...mostly blinking attacks....any tips to help him stop would be appriaciated.thanks..

Answer 1

why dont you just ask him to quit it?

Answer 2

Iff it's not the tourrets that's causing it and he is willing to try it, have him put a rubber band on his wrist and every time he says" and stuff like that"...either he snaps it or you do it for him if you are with him! After awhile the negative pain reinforcement should do the trick. I used to have a problem with "ya know" worked for me like a dream. If it is the Tourrets, well that is a medical issue to be addressed with his doctor and medication.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Since you've already made him aware of it and he keeps doing it, why not tell him that from now on, every time he says it, he has to put a dollar in a jar. Any money amount would work. He'll be more aware of it when he realizes how quickly that money adds up, and he'll be amazed that he said it that much. You can use the money for the wedding once he's broken the habit! =)

Answer 4

People pick up bad speaking habits and dont realize it. I had one where I said "you know" all the time. I never knew that I said it until I had to do a deposition with a lawyer. When I got my copy of the deposition I just kept seeing where I said "you know", "you know"......

Maybe if you record a conversation with your boyfriend and then play it back to him pointing out every time he says "and stuff like that" maybe he will realize how much he is saying it.

Once you realize that you have a bad speaking habit, you can work to change it. However, changing a bad speaking habit is hard work that takes a lot of awareness. If your boyfriend lacks a lot of self awareness it might not be possible to help him to change it.

Good luck...."and stuff like that" ........just joking!

Answer 5

It could be part of the touretts, called a verbal tic. However it could also be a bad habit that he is use to doing. Let himknow how you feel about it, and ask him if he can stop? If he can't control it then more then likely it is a part of his syndrome. Maybe you could start doing the same thing back to him, and he will get a little taste of his own medicine?

Answer 6

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Answer 7

You could try giving him an envelope marked: "The 3 things I would like most to see change in you.", just before going to work, etc., and show him that you have an identical one, and say you saw it on Dr. Phil., or somewhere, and it looked like a fun way to get to know you better, so let's try it. One the inside is a sheet of paper, asking for a rating between 1 (low) and 10 (extremely strong), and space for 3 longish responses, under three headings; first most desired change; second most..........; third most............ His is blank, as is yours (show him first!!!). Later on, ask if he has filled it out yet, and if so, swap envelopes. Yours has: First: 10/10 - PLEASE, PLEASE stop saying: "and stuff like that", Second: 4/10 - Please put the toilet seat down, afterwards. Third: 2/10 - ??????????? You may be surprised by what he has written!

Answer 8

Is this something that is caused by his disease? If so, don't make fun of him and let it go. If it's not caused by his disease, then I would suggest that when you converse with him to end every other sentence with "and stuff like that". It will annoy him and he will think to himself, "hmmm..maybe I sound like an idiot when I say that all the time" and he will eventually quit.

Answer 9

you can either get used to it, or you can ask him what does "& stuff like that mean" tell him it's vague and tell him you don't understand what it means when he says it.

It sounds like a term he's using for lack of self expression, meaning he's unable to express himself, "and stuff like that."
See it makes no sense at all.

Ask him if he assumes you know what "stuff" he's refering to. Then tell him you don't know. Hopefully that will comminicate that he's not communicating. He needs to try a little harder. You're not in his head, and you don't know what he's thinking if he doesn't tell you.
I hope I communicated my answer clearly enough for you to understand my message regarding communicating

Answer 10

LOL, I do that a lot. Not tourettes-related, but that's a bad habit of mine, same with saying "or something" and "or whatever".

Answer 11

well tell him first. but since he has tourette syndrome it would be really hard for him. and thinking your his fiance you should accept him. what if if that phrase is a part of his syndrome?