Last night marked the 2 month anniversary of my boyfriend and I. We went on a beautiful and romantic dinner cruise around Manhattan. When we went outside the boat to see the Statue of Liberty he wrapped his arms around me and said "I love you"
I was shocked but it was such a magnificent night and I didn't want to kill the atmosphere so I said "I love you too". Later that night he said it again and he whispered it in my ear on the plane tonight. I have said "I love you too" every time..the problem is I DON'T..not even close. Am I at the point of no return where I should keep humoring him? Or should I be honest and hurt him?
2007-03-20 14:48:02 · 16 answers · asked by goldengirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him the truth,dont say it unless you mean it, you've probably got the poor fella arranging your marriage now as you said those special words to him
2007-03-20 14:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥™Tia™♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, never. If I didn't love that person, I would say things like: I like you. It takes a lot of time for me to fall in love with someone :) It takes a lot of time for me to actually say it to somebody.. I have only said it to one guy in my whole life.. And only after we were dating for 6 months :) But I'm glad I waited for so long.. At least I truly loved him when I said it :) Yes, people have said it to me. Without meaning it? Probably, just to try and flirt with me. But I don't trap into that :) Some people say it too easily and I really get suspicious when they do.. People shouldn't just say it. It's never good to play with someones feelings..
2016-03-29 09:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will only hurt him more in the end if you continue. i know you feel like your damned if you do or damned if you don't but i doubt that you are a malicious person out only to hurt him so with that in mind you either explain now that you aren't in love with him yet and don't use the phrase or you you explain that you will never be in love and end it now. if you "humor" him then it will only hurt more in the end.. explain that 2 months isn't long enough to make that kind of statement.. those three words are so emotionally charged that personally i belive you should only say them when you mean them. so to sum it up, tell him now it will hurt less than if you wait... (dont you want a relationship based on truth and honesty?)
2007-03-20 14:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lead him on tell him how you feel . The longer you keep making him believe you do love him when you really don't could have very disastrous results not to mention he will be so hurt it won't be funny. End it now while it is still early,but let him down gently and be honest with him. It won't be easy but
he will respect you for being honest about your feelings.
2007-03-20 14:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by setfree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u realli dont love hima nd dont think u eva will then tell him and maybe it would be for the best. but if u think u will grow to love him but right now is too soon then when he says it next time just say thx dido, that way ur realli not hurtiin him but ur tellin him u mneed more time to say that bac to him. donthurt him unless u realli dont love hima nd neva will. but if u knoe u do or will na djust arent readi to say it then say thx dido it elmimnate so much hurt and saves u although he may take it in a bad way and hurt him anyways although there not much u can do about that. bestz luck
2007-03-20 14:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be too hard on yourself. I understand you did not want to kill the atmosphere.
But loving someone does not mean you will marry him! You may love him as a person.. You may love his ways..
There are all kind of love you may feel for another person. Does that make it fake or real? Don't worry about it. You enjoyed your 2 month anniversary with a man who loves you and wants to make you happy. Enjoy and congrats!
2007-03-20 14:55:23 · answer #6 · answered by Shaana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the plane? Why were you going somewhere with him? You're so skipping the important details! Since you KNOW you don't love him, why are you leading him on?
Tell him NOW that you are just lying. You can't be seriously considering the alternative.
2007-03-20 14:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A) If you don't love him, why is he your boyfriend
B) NEVER USE THE WORD LOVE WITHOUT MEANING IT!!!! Everytime you say it you just severly injured the poor man's heart.
C) You didn't have to say anything. Now he is out there thinking you love him. Prehaps you made his life and his ego is huge. Imagine what he'd feel if he learned it wasn't true?
2007-03-20 14:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by The Animal Psychiatrist♬♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him false hope. Lying to him is going to hurt him even more. don't just tell him "yeah, well i don't love you" there is probably a better solution. When he says that next time just be like " yeah me too" i guess that way you aren't really saying the you love him, just aknowledging it. or just say " Yeah, i like you too " well, to tell the truth if you don't love him why are you still dating him, from what you said it sounds like he is forcing you to be his girlfriend.
2007-03-20 14:54:28 · answer #9 · answered by MiSSkASiA♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what you feel...
your not ready to tell him you love him... so let him know.. i dont think it means its the end of the relationship... your just not staying on the same level.... hes up there while your down here... so tell him what you just wrote to us.. about not wanting to ruin the moment... but also reassure him that one day you might be able to tell it back to him truthfully and mean it
2007-03-20 14:52:08 · answer #10 · answered by dramoonzer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋