I met the most amazing guy ever. Unfortunetly, the day we met he was on his way to the air force base where he's currently stationed (approx 4 1/2 hrs from where I live). We spend hours on the phone 2gether although we've never spent any time 2gether actually 2gether. Its really frustrating b/c his family is about 1 1/2 hr from me and he visits them often. Finally, I called him out about why he doesn't come visit me when he's at home. He claims he's already getting attached to me and doesn't want that to get stronger b/4 he's deployed to iraq in a couple months for a 6 month tour. Supposedly the military has taught him endurance and patience so when he comes back we can actually have a real relationship. I really have feelings for this guy and definetly could be patient if I knew I had something to look forward to...HOWEVER. Is it possible he can actually be this patient or is he just leading me on?
2007-03-20 14:18:04 · 12 answers · asked by Kyppa 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
He's 31 y/o (i'm 27) and i'm pretty much positive he's not seeing anyone else.
2007-03-20 14:28:45 · update #1
With the amount we talk and the times he works/sleeps, I don't see how he'd have time to see anyone else. When I called him out he did say if he was in this just to get laid he would've seen me the 1st weekend he had off and then never talked to me again.
2007-03-20 14:37:31 · update #2
I agree with a few of the posters.
you dont know this guy, and he has other priorities at the moment.
Dont think so far ahead. Go have fun, flirt, meet people, and worry about this guy when he gets home and wants a girlfriend. He certainly doesnt need any added grief about why he doesnt visit.
Until then, be his friend, his penpal. How are you going to feel when hes deployed and cant call and talk for hours? Or spends his few calls talking to his family? Sounds like you are expecting too much of him for now.
I dont believe hes leading you on. I think hes being upfront with you and saying he doesnt want a girlfriend. Move on, and if you are available when he returns and he is still interested, worry about it then.
Good luck =)
2007-03-20 14:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by independent101 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to cut the guy some slack. He has Iraq on his mind. A place that has already taken more than 3000 lives.
I am thinking that right now he is looking for family time, and his own personal time, to sort out his life...after all, he may not return alive. Not being pessimistic, just an observation.
Plus, it sounds like he is probably quite a bit more mature than you. You don't even know this man.
Give it some time. If he comes back from Iraq and calls you up, it is probably a done deal. If not, then move on. You should probably go ahead and move on anyways, as there isn't any formal thing between you.
Make sure to get his mailing address so you can write him!
2007-03-20 14:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by powhound 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I kind of agree with STEELHEAD. If you are spending all this time on the phone why doesn't he come see you or have you come see him. So he is going to diss you for 3 months so he doesn't miss you for the next 6 months???? I'd think he'd want to get tight with you so you could send him sexy photos and letters to help him pass the time in Iraq.
When I was stationed in England, I'd take a cab, 2 trains on an 8 hour trip to spend the weekend with a British girl that had no heat in her house.
2007-03-20 14:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by AngryPatriot 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i am going into the army and that i purely met up with this female i had thoughts for on account that center college. It kills me to think of ill be leaving in 2-3months, and that i'll under no circumstances tell her how i think and loose her for ever. yet i'm afraid she would be waiting to get related and then i gotta decide for god is conscious how long. to not point out i am going for the army seals which places me in risky circumstances. I dot prefer to try this to her, so i will see his part. How is he taking part in you if he's not spending time with you? i don't comprehend, i'm not likely to declare he's or isn't because of the fact i will see have been he's coming from. identity say date, forget approximately approximately him, and if he desires to start up some thing while he comes back and your nevertheless open to it, then take it from there. you will possibly survive a point of purely pals for now.
2016-10-19 05:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, asking a military man to help you with this question makes no sense. Girl, let him go. He's not interested in having a relationship with you. Right now he's 4 hours away and you don't even see him, how are you attached!?!? And how will 4 hours or 4000 miles matter if you don't see him anyway. Give it up and move on, he won't have any problem doing so.
2007-03-20 14:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by wldntulike_2know 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your the second option, the fall back girl. His parents live close to you and you havent went and seen him at all when he goes home so much. Its just an excuse, I use to drive from North Carolina to Chicago on normal weekends to see my girl, especially before I was going to be deployed, and this guys parents who he sees often live only an hour away and nothing about meeting half way or you coming to see him. Wake up.
2007-03-20 14:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by Kenneth W 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I see we have a split decision. You are being played. #1 he's Air Force. They don't typically get put in positions of danger. #2 He goes home all the time, and even if he was really really tired, why hasn't he invited you to visit him at his folks house. I suspect there is a real girlfriend near the parents and you are the backup.
2007-03-20 14:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
"I really have feelings for this guy and definitely could be patient if I knew I had something to look forward to"
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Then tell him. Don't do it in anger, don't make it an ultimatum or sound defensive, just tell him in a matter of fact tone.
He's right about one thing. If he was a dog he'd have hit and run by now.
2007-03-20 17:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by Yak Rider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are being played dear...if a young guy had the hots for you (and wasn't bangin somebody else) a few hr drive is nothing. When I was in the marines I'd drive 15 hrs on the weekend (one way) to see my babe for a day.
2007-03-20 14:24:56 · answer #9 · answered by Steelhead 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like hes just trying to be patient because if he was playing you he would obviously not put so much effort in getting a relationship with you.
Good Luck
2007-03-20 14:22:16 · answer #10 · answered by marinecorpsmos 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋