A student of mine(2nd grade) is having a birthday party and his mom asked for gift cards as presents for him instead of toys. She especially asked for certain stores. I think that is totally wrong and rude! What do you think?
2007-03-20 14:05:51 · 12 answers · asked by squeezy 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would never get involved, but I didn't know if this is a trend or something totally out of the blue.
2007-03-20 14:16:17 · update #1
The biggest problem I see is that every body is going to know how much you spent. Could get embarrassing for some people less fortunate.
The kid might like it if hes targeting an expensive toy some where, but although its their birthday you have to consider your guests also.
2007-03-20 14:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by 10 Point Shoe-In 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
WOW why not just come out and ask for cold hard cash!?!?!
My opinion is the same as yours - wrong AND RUDE!
2nd graders want to open presents- ever notice how cards get shoved aside? Birthdays are out of control anymore with kids. Too much too soon for kids- over stimulating and the expectations are little more than a competition between immature parents.
2007-03-20 21:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by rottymom02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gift cards for certain stores? Depends on the amount you give the card for but it's still fishy.
Now i'd be suspicious. Is she really telling him pick out the things he wants or is she spending it on herself. I think it's rude because it's her sons birthday. If she is worried about clothing sizes she should give that information to you and if she needs it to be returned for a bigger size all she needs is the tag or receipt and where it came from.
For a second grader GIFT CARDS aren't that "exciting" where is the birthday party...without actually presents and ripping up wrapping paper? and shoving ur face with cake? lol
so yes i think it's wrong.
2007-03-20 21:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by Gabrielle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is rather rude, she shouldnt ask for anything. it is understood that people will bring presents to a childs party.. if parents ask what he wants, the mother can suggest stores.. but other than lack of etiquette- this mother is also showing poor knowledge of how children work in general- kids DO NOT want the birthday cards or money. If it is explained to them that this is like a credit card they can use to get whatever they want, they will probably like it, but they will have so much more fun openning presents, i assure you! Moral-- i agree with you, wrong and rude!!
2007-03-20 21:14:25 · answer #4 · answered by techiemaiden 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really do not approve of the trend of asking for money, which is basically what she is doing. I reeks of 'you won't pick the right presents'. Party's are for fun not for presents. If it was my child going I would probably give less cash than I would have spent, just on the principle of the matter.
Some people have no idea how rude they are...
2007-03-20 23:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It certainly doesn't get much tackier than that! Part of the fun of the party for an 8 year-old is the suspense and surprise from opening a gift and seeing what people thought of for the kid. In addition to being tacky, she is robbing her child of the joy of having a birthday party!
2007-03-20 21:21:06 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's repulsive. Plain old bad manners. Sounds like she is thinking of herself, not her son! She is being greedy. I hear Miss Manners crying now. I think a child would be happy to get just about any toy from a 99 cent store. Kids just want to have fun, I don't really think they care.
2007-03-20 22:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by beckini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would have the guts to do this. It's kind of like a registry for a kids birthday party.
2007-03-20 21:11:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any mention of gifts on an invitation is rude.
2007-03-20 23:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very tacky! What fun is a gift card for a kid? Sheesh!
2007-03-21 03:01:08 · answer #10 · answered by ebonyruffles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋