I am 14 and have NEVER had a boyfriend before. I am kind of shy around guys. I can't really start up a conversation. I was just wondering if I will EVER get a boyfriend and eventually get a husband? If I do get a boyfriend will I feel comfortable around him like I am with my family and friends. If anybody was shy at my age please share some of your stories. Thank You!!!!
2007-03-20 14:02:52 · 26 answers · asked by ~ ♥ ~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trust me, don't rush this! At age 14 you are not going to have a relationship that will last or be dating the guy you're going to marry. Just be patient - eventually something that's meant to happen will happen. Once you find the right guy you will feel totally comfortable, I was always uncomfortable around boyfriends until I met my soulmate, and now I'm 18 and we're getting married. I promise everything will work out hun! Just give it a chance.
2007-03-20 14:06:34 · answer #1 · answered by Kim H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets see stories..... got my first girlfriend at the age of 16 mainly because of my shyness...
i actually met her at a summer program and she actually lives an hour and a half away.. but she actually liked me before i liked her... i just acted like myself... shy but very funny once you get to know me... im very outgoing around people i know... so i try to do that as much as possible around my close friends and she just seemed to like my personality.. (and she thought i was cute which was a plus)
like the old saying.... There is someone for everyone.. just keep an open mind about it.. just be yourself... try to be a little sociable. Your friends are the best way to get into the dating pool. Start off on group dates (or just get a bunch of friends together for a movie or something).. and gradually work your way up to asking a guy out.
PS: before the summer program.. i had girl trouble... went on bunches of dates.. all of which did not go well... and what i learned from all of it is that you should try not being so hung up on looking... when the times right... your girl or guy friend will come to you..
2007-03-20 21:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by dramoonzer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 is really young. You have entire lives ahead of you before you even turn 20. The best way to become friends with someone is to treat them like they're already your friend. I learned that from someone who did it to me. In the meantime, try to get involved in interests that involve other people (clubs, sports, theatre, debate, newspaper, save the world?) and grow as a person that way. Try to participate at least once in every class every day, this will help with the shyness, and make you learn better too. Trust me, hearing your own voice at that age, in class, helps. Someday you will find someone you are overjoyed to talk to. You will feel *more* comfortable around them than your family and perhaps even friends. This is all true. good luck! PS It is absurd for you to think about husbands at your age.
2007-03-20 21:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was shy at 14 and didnt date until I was a Junior in HS and that wasnt serious. I know it sounds like a big deal to you now but just have fun and dont take things too seriously.
The longest relationship I had before my husband was 4 months when I was 20. I met my husband that year but didnt date him until I was 22. We got engaged in 6 months and married 7 months later! We had a baby 8 months ago and our 3rd anniversary will be in April. My family LOVES him!
The funniest part....all my HS friends all had boyfriends ALL THE TIME. I was the first to get engaged, get married and have a baby!
2007-03-20 21:13:54 · answer #4 · answered by GAjen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww you seem sweet- and I'm telling you- please don't worry! I had my first bf at 14, and let me tell you, I was the shyest girl you'd ever meet. I thought I'd never get a date for as long as I lived- I was too absorbed in my schoolwork, doing my own thing. Eventually, I found out that the hot "everyone likes him" kind of guy football team captain thought that I was cute. I had never talked to him before, so I thought it was a lie, and went about my life. Then he started talking to me, and soone enough everyone was telling me he liked me. He eventually asked me out, and we were together for a year. Now I hate him, but hey, lol, I am grateful for the memories! You will have some too- just remember that you should always let HIM come to YOU and that the right guy will come for you before you know it.
2007-03-20 21:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey!
i'm 15 and i've never had a boyfriend, and neither have some of my close friends..and we're not bad looking either. I know it's lame to not have one when it seems like everyone else does, and i sometimes i think what you're thinking (will i ever get one?????). But I have faith in us. My mom didn't date in high school and she married a great guy....
Here's some advice some people have given me: don't focus on finding love, because just when you least expect it (or want it, for that matter), it will come.
However, I also believe that you always have be on the lookout!!
so here's to us, and our future boyfriends.
cheers!
2007-03-20 21:09:46 · answer #6 · answered by bree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fourteen?! Wow! I was 18 when I got my first BF and that wasn't long ago lol anyway it's really fine I was extremely shy but all you have to do is just go up and say "hey" to some guy who you are interested in. And then invite him to a movie or something and out to eat then you will get to know him better.
But your young and have your whole life ahead of you, I'm sure you'll get married! =)
Good Luck!
2007-03-20 21:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by pebblespunk2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 14, you shouldn't really be dating seriously. I am your age, but I know what you mean. Have confidence in yourself. Don't worry you will come out of that stage. I used to be FREAKING shy, it was horrible! lol But it takes time to find the right guy!
Good Luck
2007-03-20 21:07:28 · answer #8 · answered by *ReJeCtEd* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am shy around guysbut not quit your age yet.I'm 13 but the perfect guy will show up.There's this really cool guy at school.He's shorter than me but he likes me and i like him too.I don't have the guts to tell him.I figured out by the way he acts around me.He'll just suddenly pop up somewhere.Don't worry,you'll find him!
2007-03-20 21:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by ashley_fan21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im almost 14 and i have never had a boyfriend either so dont feel bad, there are alot of kids out there who are single their whole lives. Cheer up! of course you'll find a boyfriend someday =) i'm pretty sure that you'll feel confortable around him once you get to know him alot!
2007-03-20 21:09:34 · answer #10 · answered by CarissaG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋