my gf and i have been going for about 3 years now.i love her and she loves me, we are even considering marriage.i went for my friends hen night and i was totally wasted on alcohol.i had an ONS with a girl (i dun remeber a thing of it).2 later, my gf's sister comes to my house all teary eyed. i ask her why and she goes on to tell me that she is pregnant and i am responsible.ofcourse my first reaction was denial.but apparently the whole thing had been filmed,what she was claiming was true.It was difficult breaking the news to my girlfriend and it breaks my heart everytime i remember the hurt on her face.
We decided to stay together but she doesn't trust me anymore.She calls me at work about a minimum of 50 times(no exaggeration) just to make sure im not with another woman.I know i should not be complaining but i am begining to get fraustrated about the whole situation.yes i did sleep with another woman,but i was drunk for gods sake.how do i get her to trust me?
2007-03-20 13:55:09 · 15 answers · asked by jerome j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your Unbelivable! Being drunk is no excuse! Be grateful she was dumb enough to take you back and stop complaining about her calls! You created this mess! and now you have to live with it!!
2007-03-20 14:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by stargazerlilly79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may of been an accident and not something you wouldn't of done, I would be promissing to not drink that much unless you are at home with her. Promise her you will not drink that much when you are not at home or out with her. This is just an example why people worry so much about drinkers you never know what you are going to wake up to in the morning, you have to have common sense and show restraint. Only time will give your g/f back the trust. It will take a long time, remind her you would never done that if you were sober and you will only drink unless she is with you. this may help alleivate the constant calls at work. What you need is time. Take care Heather
2007-03-20 14:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats horrible, if you get that drunk that you can shag your girlfriends sister then its obvious you shouldn't drink. and if that was me i would phone you 50 times to make sure your not shagging someone else!!! dont blame your gf for being like that, you have done this, you made your bed now lay in it and take responsibility! she shouldnt of stayed with you, i doubt she will ever be able to trust you! when i was with an old boyfriend i cheated on him, and i hated myself after, i got into a different relationship with another guy a while later and told him what had happened in my past relationship, and because i did he finds it hard trusting me even thought i was with someone else at the time, qand what you have done is a hundred times worse, alcohol is no excuse....
2007-03-20 14:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by Charlotte S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa!! You didn't just get a girl pregnant, you went and got her sister pregnant!!! It was a bad idea to get back together. Something as hurtful as that can be forgiven but not forgotten.
It will always be in your minds. It's a fallen relationship. Even if you love her and she loves you, things are just never gonna be the same. You 2 will always encounter a problem and never be happy. Sorry to be so blunt about it, but that's reality.
2007-03-20 14:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't try to blame your stupidity on your drunkeness.. yeah sure you made a mistake.. but it was a HUGE mistake. and you seem like you really want to try and make this better.. but the only thing you can do is to have a Real heart-to-heart talk with your girlfriend and tell her that you will never drink that much again. (if you can do that..) because who knows, if you got that drunk and you did what you did Again.. then i don't see why your girlfriend should trust you.. yeah your actions were inhibited with Alcohol.. but it still gives no excuse. i don't know what to tell you.. that's a hard situation... your girlfriend i guess just needs to understand and realize what a Mistake it was.. but it's Still going to Hurt her you have to understand. you NEED Trust to Have a relationship..
2007-03-20 14:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by coolio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry buddy, you are screwed. There is no way she can trust you again. You have made her paranoid now, and her behavior will only annoy you and cause you guys more problems.
You should not go out drinking without your significant other, because stupid sh*t like this happens all the time and nobody learns.
Dont mean to be blunt or mean, just honest.. : (
2007-03-20 14:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by Mx2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r lucky she haven't left u so stop complaining. my advice is to quit drinking , whats the point of drinking urself stupid and to the point of oblivion and ending up in deep sh** that u cant even recall?
if u carry on she'll never trust u when u go out and a relationship without trust is as good as pointless. so, get over urself, apologise to her and her family yet again and make achange for the better. afterall it will save your kidneys in the long run and extend your time on earth with your very understanding wife............good luck.
2007-03-20 14:21:41 · answer #7 · answered by latoya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could make a promise saying that "I will never cheat on you as long as i live" and write on a piece of paper and put it in a frame and give it to you're gf and hang it on the wall so every time she sees it she'll start to trust you again but she might not trust you completely at first but after a while she should
2007-03-20 14:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by FML 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to earn trust, will you be able to cut out all alcohol from now on? If you can't handle your drink or be responsible when you've had too much, then i am not surprised she doesn't trust you. sorry but my partner cheated on me 8yrs ago, i never recovered. we eventually seperated 4 yrs ago and the only worthwhile thing i got out of the relationship are 2 adorable children, now aged 14yrs and 6 yrs.
2007-03-20 14:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by mhruss13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in time u will see that it wont work... after all the sister dude? OMG! lol... it could be fairer all round to cut ur losses. After all.. if it was true love.. no drug or drink in the world would make u cheat.
2007-03-20 14:06:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋