I just got rejected by the women i love.....im really depressed and all i wanna do all day is cry......what can i do to be happier, i dont wanna talk to anyone especiALLY MY PARENTS.....HOW CAN I DO THIS...PLEaSE HELP.
2007-03-20 13:42:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Give yourself time to grieve and don't let people dismiss what you feel because you are young, some things just take time to get over. Rejection is never easy and it always hurts. Spend time with your friends and family who's company you enjoy and allow them to take your mind off your loss, even if only for a little while. It's okay to spend some time alone just feeling your feelings, but don't isolate yourself entirely or withdraw from other people.
Sports and athletics can often be a good way to get your mind off of things for a while, release some nervous energy just be a good way to vent the frustration you feel over what happened. Other creative outlets like writing, which someone suggested, or making music/writing a song if you're so inclined, or even drawing or painting can help you find other productive outlets for your feelings which may seem rather raw right now.
Above all, try to remember that her loss is someone else's gift and that when love is really right, you'll know it because it will be returned. People reject a person for all kinds of reasons and it doesn't mean it has anything to do with you being unworthy or unlovable. I like coffee and tea and I can't stand pop/soda-it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with pop or soda, it just isn't something I like. You may not be her cup of tea, so to speak, but you can bet you're someone else's!!!
Hang in there, she just wasn't the right person to appreciate you right now. Take care of yourself so you'll be available when the right girl makes her appearance.
2007-03-20 14:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by Opester 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As much as I would love to tell you to just buck up as many of the other folks here have, you loved this person. What you are feeling right now is grief and pain is a very healthy, natural reaction to rejection and loss. What you are feeling may last days, weeks, months or even years depending on the length and depth of your relationship with this woman. Do not let anyone trivialize your hurt. Your pain is very real. Take comfort in knowing that you are not alone, there are others like you who also grieve for their lost loves. I hope you will find strength in knowing that time eventually heals all and someday you will find another who is deserving of your love.
2007-03-20 15:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by Dogmom3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rejection can feel really, really strong. However, the grief that you are currently feeling will pass. To help you get through this sad time, while all of life around you keeps going At full pace, there are some things you can do to feel better.
Talk with someone who genuinely cares about you
Talk with a friend
Pull out your notebook and write and write and write about what's bothering you. When you are done you can fold-it up and put it away. You will find that by doing this exercise, you will allow yourself to release much of your grief and energy into the pages. When you complete it, you will feel as if much of your concern has left your mind, and there will be a beginning to your relief.
The remainder of your hurt feelings will take time to heal, as you practice being around other people once again.
2007-03-20 14:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she your first love, because they hurt the most. Depending on your age and situation just think about something you've always wanted to do and do it- maybe backpack through Europe over the summer or something that sounds great to you and plan for it and do it. This way you ahve something to look forward to and meet new people and it is positive.
2007-03-20 14:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by mamato3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection is so hard for anyone! I would highly recommend maybe going to a counselor. Good luck!
2007-03-20 15:11:45 · answer #5 · answered by esoltchr1275 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's alright to cry alittle. But it won''t get you anywhere. If you ask me you should do some stuff you enjoy, And start dating other girls. There are a million fish in the sea and i bet there is more than one for you.
2007-03-20 13:48:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
try some chamomile tea, it is a mood stabalizer and will help you stay calm and think clearly
2007-03-20 13:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by susuze2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a hobby
stay busy
keed your head up
and stay happy
2007-03-20 13:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by stretch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make pleasure with another girl, and you will be happy. or just beat your meat..... if you know wat i mean jerk. i know wat love is but you just can sit there and cry all day... lol its more girls betta in da world you can find thats better than her
2007-03-20 13:48:34 · answer #9 · answered by sw33t3r than c@ndy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget it - it doesn't matter
2007-03-20 13:45:42 · answer #10 · answered by urrrp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋