here it is i am engage to an awsome guy who nice funny treats me really good but i have feelin 4 my ex i dont know why but i just do i think it cus of his looks and my bf aint dat cute but i been on off wit him 4 nine months n i was wit my ex 4 one month and they both respect the fact i am a virgin but i dt know what to do can sum1 helpme thank u
2007-03-20 13:38:19 · 16 answers · asked by jessica v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also i just confuse about who i should be wit
2007-03-20 13:39:33 · update #1
Are you sure you are ready to marry? Can you see yourself with this guy ten and twenty years from now? Can you see holding his head when he is throwing up and making peace with him after a big fight? Can you see him staying with you even when you gain weight, get crabby, etc. If you are this tempted by your ex now, how will you feel in a few years? I wonder how old you are. Stay engaged if you want but slow down, get some pre-marriage counseling from a religious leader or someone you respect. And don't let your virginity go if that's what you believe, but there is more to marriage than being with a guy who wants tobe your first.
2007-03-20 13:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by LoB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly I think that since you guys have only been dating for 9 months you shouldn't be getting married yet. People change, you change. I think that you should be dating at least a year or year 1/2 before you get married. But anyway...looks don't matter if you really like the guy. You and your ex broke up for a reason...remember that reason when you are looking at him. You have a good guy...keep him. Don't mess this up because you think that your ex is hot. Also...great job remaining a virgin. I too am waiting until marriage.
Anyway...when you are engaged it's not alright to like anyone else, but since you do...don't act on your feelings and mess anything up.
2007-03-20 13:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by em<3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what feels right and screw up your life....If you are in a committed relationship such as marriage, it requires that you commit your love and attention to that 1 person. Why is that hard to understand? If you don't love him, don't marry him. Just make up your mind. You can't love 2 and still be true.
2007-03-20 13:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean to tell me that you are willing to throw away a great relationship with an awesome guy whom you are about to MARRY because your ex looks better than he does??!!!
Confused is not word I would use for you.
2007-03-20 13:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by fenway2k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like your too young for this...and thats ok not a bad thing your just normal!! Dont get married just wait it out and get to know yourself better then your will really know what you want and who you need in your life....
2007-03-20 13:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay with your fiance. The feelings for your ex will fade eventually. Don't do anything to screw up your relationship with your fiance though.
2007-03-20 13:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by Isabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your are engaged to be married, honey , you had better be damn sure! If you aren't , break off the engagement because it isn't fair to your fiance.
2007-03-20 13:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by greenfrogs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u should think y were u in the relationship with your ex u must have had some problems don't chet on yo boyfriend hes not cheting on u think about it
2007-03-20 13:47:30 · answer #8 · answered by mznancy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to feel like this, but to act upon it whil eyou're still with your fince is WRONG.
You need to sort things out before you do something stupid.
2007-03-20 13:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your time honey & make sure you want to get married if not let your fiance move on & you will have plenty of time to get serious & get married
2007-03-20 13:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by pimpdaddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋