How do you get over having a falling out with your pastor/church?

Question

I got over the fact that my pastor would say he would do something and not follow threw, however, once the Sunday school teacher allowed my son to leave the church and the church grounds without my permission or knowledge I haven't been back. I never got a call from the Sunday school teacher, only the director apologizing.

I did go to my pastor and let him know I had an issue with him and why. He gave me and my husband the run around. Then I returned after being gone for two months and that was when they allowed my child to leave the church. Now I do live across the street however my son is only 3 years old.

Answer 1

Its tough when people you place in trust over your children fail to keep that trust. However, your disagreement isnt really with the church or the pastor, its more of a personal thing (youre not arguing doctrine or how you were treated scripturally, its more of a failure of one human being to another). Matthew 18 gives some excellent counsel when a situation is affecting your spirituality. First, it tells you to go and discuss it with your offending brother. In this case, a discussion with both the pastor and/or the head of the Sunday school would be appropriate. If neither of them listen to you or view your opinions/facts as valid, then Jesus says to bring other witnesses with you. Perhaps there are others in your congregation who have also had issues with the teacher and will support you as you try to come to a solution to the school issues. If that doesnt work, the last option is to go to the congregation in regards to these issues. This will work if you want to solve the problem of your child leaving church grounds without your notification. However, forgiveness is up to you. As much as what they did could have put your child in harm, it wasnt malicious, and the scriptures tell us to ask God to forgive our debts as we have forgiven others. So forgiveness of others is a requirement by God to gain forgiveness from him. If you're able to forgive, but still unable to trust, perhaps another congregation will be better for you to attend.

Answer 2

You need to decide if you can trust the Sunday school teachers to watch your children. If not then you should consider finding another church.
Before you do it would be best for you to work at forgiving both the pastor and the teacher. Remember the pastor is a human being and is therefore capable of mistakes. Forgive him for disappointing you then ask yourself why you would expect him to be so perfect he could cause you so much pain.
If you don't identify these issues in yourself this may happen again.

Answer 3

Why would you leave your three year old in the Church/Sunday School, without you being there to give him support. Little three year olds , sometimes feel insecure without their Mom or Dad. Only until he was older, should you have left him with the Sunday School teacher and class. Your Sweet Little Boy was not ready to be left, without you. It will get better, as he gets older. Don't be angry, but it is a lesson learned. Go back to Church and try to forget. Speak to the Minister and let him know that you want to worship in the church and move on.

Answer 4

That's what I would like to know. The only thing I know to do, is just go to another church. I was severly wronged 3 weeks ago, by a new pastor, who wanted me to play (I play bass guitar in any praise team), but, the church and specifically a board member thought I played too loud. I did not know that the person the board member that I oppose alot was on the board, and he is a guitar player in the team. He plays too soft, and plays an acoustic guitar, mine is electric. After 3 rounds of trying to get things fixed for the music team, I gave up. This time was a bad turn of events, me getting the bad end of the deal, and no one apologized to me, for the embarrassment I have suffered in my attempts to "smooth out" the problems the team was having with church members who though the music was too loud. You see, it was the guitar player playing too soft, that made me sound loud. I played soft, and still sounded loud next to him. I have not gotten over it, but now, I am searching for a new church, while my wife continues to go to that church, because her family goes there. Until I find a better church, we worship seperately, and that doesn't sit well with me either. Just pray, and in position, I am afraid you only have one recourse, and that is, to go elsewhere. Pray for those who wrong you, and move on.

Answer 5

Pray and ask God to direct you to another Church. Pray for the Pastor and Sunday School Teacher.

I am sorry that your trust was betrayed but we must let Jesus Christ deal with others who are in authority.

Answer 6

like any relation, unlike God, understand that human beings are prone to failure
realize that there are some professing to be mature aren't
not all churches are as this one
first, find healing in youself and family
move one, shake the dust, pray for the weak, but move on

Answer 7

How do you get over having a falling out with your pastor/church?


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Answer 8

I would consider going to a different church, but if you are seeking forgiveness for them in your life, that will take time, but I wouldn't continue going there if they cannot keep track of your child.

Answer 9

Turn your back on this church, but not on G-d.
Keep a heart of forgiveness, but move on. Learn, & grow.

Answer 10

Go to a different church