I met what I thought was an awesome girl about a month ago, we went on a few dates, and were working our way up to becoming serious. Anyway, she told me she liked me a lot right before spring break, so as a surprise I went down to visit her (we're go to a college in the middle of nowhere)....LONG story short, I found out she has had a boyfriend this entire time, but she doesn't know I know, neither does her boyfriend.
There is no way I'm staying with her, but I do think he has the right to know, I'm just not sure if I should really tell him.
2007-03-20 13:28:16 · 12 answers · asked by James 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep it to yourself, it will serve no purpose. And she may be planning to make a change. So take it easy until you are sure she is really looking to you for the future. If at some time she begins to give you a hard time then you drop this on her. Will not do you any good but a good lesson for the future for her.
2007-03-20 13:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a good guy, and I for one am delighted you did the right thing by ending the relationship when you found out what you found out. If the world had more guys like you it'd be a better place!
It's a tough call. Personally, I'd not want to get involved anymore than you already are. He does have a right to know - but would he believe you if you told him? I'd say the best thing to do is forget about her and let him find out what she is for himself.I just don't see any benefit by telling him yourself - indeed, you may even be putting your own personal safety into jeopardy by getting further involved.
2007-03-20 13:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by deucelow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find him and tell him this "[the girls name] and i have been hanging out for a while and she just told me she liked me and other things too and she never told me she had a boyfriend she doesnt know i'm telling you this right now and i just found out that you two were going out. i just thought you should know this because i would want to know if it was me"
its going to be a shock to him but he also might already know she has been up to something your doing the right thing if you tell him and your being a better person not only to your self but to the other guy to and putting her in the position where she will realize she needs to make better choices. hope i helped =]
this is just my opinion and you should go with what you think is right
2007-03-20 13:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by jc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure. think of of it like this - something is cheating if its some thing your boyfriend could be pissed if he observed. So if your sitting on a men lap, retaining his hand, kissing him and so on then he would be pissed and flow away you. to not be quite harsh, yet you will possibly desire to sense one hundred% to blame and you will possibly desire to tell him precisely what you probably did. do not take it offensively yet he will ruin up with you while he properly-knownshows out. So take it as a lesson found out to not kiss different boys once you tell yet another guy of a million 3 hundred and sixty 5 days and 3 months you like him.
2016-10-19 05:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD SIDE
well James u should tell her boyfriend honesty is the best
policy and put Ur self in his position wouldn't u like to know if Ur girlfriend is cheating on u....
BAD SIDE
but then again if u tell him u might get beaten up pretty badly
think about this long, good and hard hope u don't get beat up
2007-03-20 13:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by `Avenging~ghetto~bird` 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUDE-- you' have to tell the guy-- so it saves him a lot of headaches and then he can go and live up his spring break--for sure-- "we" men know that most girls in college are mmm a "bump and run" but obviously he doesn't-- let him know
2007-03-20 13:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by babalooie21204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather than telling the boyfriend, I would first confront the girl. Hearing his girlfriend has been cheating would be an incredible blow, especially from you, the man she was cheating with. You should confront her first, and take it from there.
2007-03-20 13:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, If you really want to create a mess then tell him.. but I wouldn't tell him I would tell her that it is over and that she needs to chose one guy... not two and you are not interested in this little love triangle that she is making.
2007-03-20 13:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your call, but I think if the roles were reversed, and she was the "other woman" who found out, she would make sure your girlfriend found out and try to sabotage you. Just a thought lol...
2007-03-20 13:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by SuzyQ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt tell him..let him find out the hard way just like you had to do. You dont owe him anything.
2007-03-20 13:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋