i wanna ask her but i dont wanna mess things up?

Question

so i like this girl. we have know each other since skool started this year and second semester my class was switched. so she asked me to sadies and i said yes. we danced all night. after she introduced me to her mom. (keep in mind she is a senior and im a junior) she seems like she likes me but im not that sure. How can i find out without breaking our friendship?

Answer 1

How can this be a problem? In all my years, I have never had a friendship destroyed because I told someone I like them. You act like you're asking for sex!

Just tell her how you feel and ask her if she feels the same. In all actuality, you will probably strengthen your friendship which is key to any good relationship.

Answer 2

Dude,

First of all, the number one thing you have to keep in mind whenever dealing with girls/women is confidence. Remember, girls aren't some kind of all-powerful omniscient beings that play puppet master with guys at all times. They are just as shy and nervous as we are.

Second, although it "could" work, straight-up asking her "do you like me" will probably not turn out well for you. Girls like to be pursued by guys. Its part of what makes them girls. They are usually insecure on some level, think they're ugly/fat/whatever, and the more you make her feel sexy and desirable, the more drawn to you she will be even if she didn't have feelings for you before. To do this, don't approach her full speed ahead at first, just talk to her, compliment her, show her affection, etc. For example, the next time you see her, drop a compliment into the conversation...something like "did I ever tell you how pretty your eyes are," or "I think you have a beautiful smile," or something along those lines. Don't force it and don't make it cheesy, just something that will make her feel good about herself. Do that a few more times, and she will start to associate feeling good with you (doesn't take long...). Then, if she hasn't already jumped you herself, you can step it up.

Try to learn how to read her body language, too. If she smiles as soon as she sees you, that's a good sign. If she brushes her hair away from her neck, touches your knee or your arm during conversation, or hugs you often, you are most of the way there already.

When you go to pick her up for your first date, clean up your car and put an air freshener in the night before. Wear something nice, even if you're just going to the movies or something, and bring her exactly five flowers. This is important. One is no good b/c its overdone, and six or more makes you seem like you're too eager, so five is perfect. Find out what her favorite color is (if you don't already know), and bring her five orchids or lilies in that color. Avoid roses b/c they are also overdone.

Also important, don't act too eager. Play a little bit of hard-to-get, because girls think once they're on a date with a guy, the ball is totally in their court and they are running the show, so if you are a little distant, she will get even more into you b/c she will get curious and, as we all know, when girls get curious, good things happen... An example would be throw a little subtle touching into the mix, like hold the small of her back when you're walking into the (wherever you go), or graze her leg a little when you open the car door for her, but then don't automatically lean in to make out in the movie theater. In fact, just take her hand at the beginning (shows assertiveness and that you know what you want) and then don't make any other moves during the movie. She'll get excited when you take her hand and will be waiting for more the whole time. When you drop her off, give her a kiss goodnight, but don't swallow her face. Make it classy and simple, and then go home. She'll be dying for you the next time you take her out.

Oh, and UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES SHOULD YOU DO ANY OF THIS OVER E-MAIL, IM, OR THE PHONE! I can't stress that enough. Not only is that a sign of immaturity, you can't evaluate her body language or use any of your own to your advantage! Plus, you're confident and assertive, remember? Talking to her in person shouldn't be a problem for a self-assured guy that knows what he wants.

Answer 3

Well there are subtle ways, I don't know what you've tried yet. At some point you may just have to tell her , in whatever words are yours, what's going on, and what you need to know from her. If you do this respectfully, and while also making it clear that you don't want your friendship to change either way, it won't ruin things. PS if she doesn't like you (worse case scenario), she is probably waiting to resolve this anyway. Afterwards both of you will breathe a breath of fresh air. Do it soon because she's gonna graduate! You don't have much to lose.

PS this conversation may go better over email or text messaging, after seeing or talking to her recently in person. That way she'll have time to respond, and it'll also feel less heavy.

Answer 4

ok, the girl asked YOU to the dance right, it can be 2 things.\

1) She thinks your an awesome guy and she can be herself around you, which is why she introduced you to her Mom

2) She likes you and is willing to start a real relatoinship with you.

Now, the basic signs u need to look for to see if she is flirting with u and is interested are these 7:

1- She will look directly at you
Before you approach a woman, she will directly look at you and maintain prolonged eye contact. In addition, she’ll smile right at you.

2- She will check you out
Yes Women check out guys. If see her look at your face then look lower she is definitely checking you out! When she looks at you, that means she has found something great about you and wants to see more.

3- She will look her best for you
Once she knows you’re looking at her, a woman will make a point look her best for you. This means preening her clothes and hair. A lot of this is subconscious, but will see signs of flirting which demonstrate she’s trying to look her best for you.

4- She will open herself up to you
After you approach a woman and strike up a conversation, she will display an “openness” with her body language. Her arms will be spread and her wrists will be turned towards you.

5- She will stroke herself
When a woman is talking to you she might stroke her neck or touch her hair, perhaps even her thigh. These signs show that she’s thinking about her sensitive areas and quite possibly what you could do to them.

6- She will draw closer
One of the best signs of flirting is when she draws closer to you during your conversation. This shows a desire to create more intimacy when you’re talking to her. A woman might even lower her voice to get you to draw in closer.

7- She will let her eyes wander all over your face
The final flirting signal is when she moves her eyes back and forth between your eyes and mouth. This is one of the classic signs of flirting where she’s thinking of you kissing her. So when you see this signal, don’t hesitate. Start kissing her!

Women give subtle signals to men that demonstrate that they’re interested. If you take the time to look for the standard signs of flirting, you’ll discover she is probably sending you a lot of signals which show she is attracted to you

well, good luck man.
joe.
www.myspace.com/b_twist

Answer 5

Mr. Paul, she likes you. You like her too. It's worth it to ask her out. Imagine your friendship plus holding her and kissing her. I was best friends with my boyfriend starting sophomore year and when he finally got the guts to ask me out 5 months later, it was such an awesome feeling! If she says no it will be akward for a week maybe and you can keep acting the way you guys usually do, no problem.

Answer 6

She seems like she likes you. The only way for you to find out is to ask her out. Senior or Junior, it doesn't matter, if she is dropping hints that she likes you, go for it.

Answer 7

Get a clue:
SHE asked you to the dance.
SHE danced with you all night.
SHE introduced you to her mother.
Tell her you like her and ask her how she feels about you.
Simple....huh?
Always be honest, you have nothing to lose and maybe something to gain. Communication is the key.
Never forget that.

Answer 8

Ummm...try asking her?

Be cool about it. If you can talk to her freely - and it sure sounds like you can - just ask her. "Sometimes it feels like we're meant to be more than friends - what do you think?" That should do the trick, without making things too awkward.

Answer 9

how cool for you that this older girl wants to hang out with you... just be honest with her, and say
" i love being friends with you and i dont want to jepordise our friendship, i think your really cute and if you were interested id love to start dating you, if your not interested im totally cool with that because just being friends is great too"

Answer 10

I think that you should ask her, but not only that you should tell her how you feel about her. Because maybe she might like you too!