my family doesnt want me to get married to my bf ive been with for 3yrs and they told me that if i do go on with the wedding, they wouldnt even come, its my only wish i dont know what to do, my bf wont marry me if i dont have my family's support becuz he dont want to be the reason for my family to disown me we're still together though its just really hard to make a choice right now can someone help me please
2007-03-20 13:18:21 · 9 answers · asked by BabyGirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
it sounds to me like there is too much behind this story for any of us to give you actual advice. perhaps you can elaborate more so we can help you.
2007-03-20 13:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by annie41378 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If your under 25 perhaps you are too young. No one can really tell you what to do until they know why your parents dont agree. If its because your 16-18 yrs old, they just dont want you to end up divorced. Many young couples dont survive. And 3 yrs isnt a lot of time. Besides, who needs to get married and have piece of paper saying they love so and so. Continue to enjoy your life together and live it right....as in if you are young...no marriage and babies just yet. Wait. Its only fair to you and any children you may bring into the world. Establish yourself first. Are you established? Is he established? As in careers/ stable jobs, home, etc. Elaborate and maybe someone can help you better.
2007-03-20 13:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by Kate J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to make a choice, families can be so selfish. You need to sit down, talk with them, maybe find out why they're so against your marriage. Like what your fiance has done for them to disapprove of him so adamantly. If they offer you good reasons, stuff you hadn't thought about, hear them out and try to see their side. But if they're stuck on things that are either way in the past or figments of their imagination, then you need to do the talking and explain to them that you love your boyfriend and marrying him is what would make you happy, which should be the most important thing to all of them.
2007-03-20 13:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure wouldn't be marrying someone my family didn't like or have a problem with. Three years have been plenty long enough for them to get to know him, so maybe they are just wise to something not being right. It is smart of your bf to feel the way he does. Family is forever. Talk to your parents.
2007-03-21 01:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First...what are your families reasons? Do they know something you don't?...They don't like his back ground or his family or is it that nasty nose ring? I'm glad your bf doesn't want to go on with the wedding until they give their best to you both. Family exceptance is important and he obviously realizes this. Hun. don't rebel against your family. You need to talk to them and get them all to say exactly what's on their minds RESPECTFULLY of course. If you believe that you all can't sit and talk about it than have them right it down. Do a pro's and con's list with them.
2007-03-20 13:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by WWJD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF your name is because your a young girl .....Marriage is a big commitment. Maybe your parents are concerned because you are young??? Does your fiance have a bad reputation?? Did he do something in the past to hurt you? It's hard to answer your question with the amount of information given...but from experience marriage is a serious commitiment and maybe your not ready. Goood luck
2007-03-20 13:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by rebekah o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your parents have got to have a reason. I would sit them down and explain that you are in love, that he is for you, and that they have to approve, because you are happy. Parents just want their kids to be happy, explain that you are. Sit them down and have a serious talk about your wish to get married.
2007-03-20 14:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by pestross 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why marry someone that your family will NEVER accept?
whats Wrong with him?
2007-03-20 13:21:32 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont they like him? If he makes you happy, go for it... they'll come around eventually...
2007-03-20 13:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by 100% Woman, yes indeed! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋