Do you think it is better to let someone live in a fantasy world?

Question

or tell the truth evan if you know it hurts?

My mum adores my sisster and think they have a close bond but the truth is my sisster is always saying horrible things about her. My mum does not see her much (around once a year) as my sisster emigrated from UK to Canada.

My sisster just wants her to visit so she can babysit her children! Last year when my mum went my sisster was saying to me that our mum was tight as she didn t pay for everything they did i know that my mum went over with $3000 and come home with around $750.

I don t know whether to leave my mum thinking that she is perfect or tell her the truth.

It realy hurts me how someone can be that nasty to there mother and I am scared the longer it goes on the worse it will be if she does find out and will she be mad i didn t tell her ?

Answer 1

I'm pretty sure it'll hurt your Mother... I think it'll be best to reason with your sister... Let her know how awful it is what she is doing... Tell her she ONLY has a mother once... not twice... That no matter how your Mother is... you should always at all times respect her and love her... and if she thinks something negative of your Mother to swallow it and shove it deep down... but for her not to hurt your mother in such a way.....

I was very cruel with my Mom once and now that she is ill... I take back all i've said and all I did to her ...and I hate myself for it.... I even think it's my fault that she is ill... because of the way I treated her...

So let her know that she ONLY has one Mother in this life... and that she don't want it to be too late in order for her to show how much she loves her... and that's "if" she loves her...

....I don't believe it's a good idea to let your Mother know... just try to advice her not to spend alot of money... but she'll feel very bad if you let her know what kind of a horrible daughter she has....

luck.

Answer 2

Well I think you should say to your sister that if she doesnt say something, you will - and if that threat doesn't work, then tell your mum that she needs to talk to your sister (dont say why) just say that 'you' dont feel comfortable with what she is saying (snitching is wrong, but this is your mum)... If your mum insists on knowing what it is from you, just keep telling her to talk to your sister... Do not tell your sister about this one because she will most likely avoid the situation.
I think in some scenarios its best to let sleeping dogs lie - but do you think it is right for your sister to make a sugarcoated relationship with your mum that could result in more hurt in the long run if she finds out?? its your choice think about it.

Answer 3

Let her know, she deserves the truth. You are right if it comes out later and she knows you were aware and did not say anything then there will more than likely be hard feelings towards you. She may not take it well at first but that is to be expected but once she realises you did it for her own good and to stop her from being used she will be glad you told her. She will probably still choose to visit to be able to see her grandchildren, but she will be more aware and not permit herself to be used.

Answer 4

I am more than qualified to answer this question, & it wont matter! Whatever bad you tell a mother about her daughter, she wont believe it - & u run the risk of alienating the mom in the process. Best thing you can do, is warn yer mom, & try to protect her as much as possible, but be aware, a mom will always take her daughters side in any argument!

Answer 5

You should tell your sister what an ungrateful spoilt madam she is being and why she should be more considerate of your mothers visits.
Only tell your mum if your sister ignores what you are saying and continues to act that way toward your mother.
Tell her delicately and let her know she is a wonderful mother

Answer 6

I'd tell her but know that she will come to terms with the truth only when and if she's ready. Don't push her too hard to realise the truth because this could turn against you and your relationship with your mum.

Answer 7

have you ever spoke to your sister and told her what she is doing is just wrong? if you havent then you should!

if you have and she didnt bother to change do something about it get your mum told! it will hurt her but at least she will not be being back stabbed by someone she loves! but dont expect her to change shell prob just put up with the way your sis treats her anyway! cause after all it is her daughter and shell love her n matter what!

Answer 8

well if it was me id like to know the truth, if you love your mum its best to tell her, she will feel hurt as she'll be thinking your jealous
but if she only sees her once a year wheres the harm

as long as your there for her and love her, let her have her little fantasy

Answer 9

I guess if you try to tell her, you will be the bad guy for interfering! I have similar situations with my family - you cannot tell someone what they do not want to hear, actually.
It is probably better to let them all get on with itand not become involved.

Answer 10

i think its natural to bash parents between sibling that is what me and my sister do its a way to get out the agression towards them so we dont have to start any fight with them, im 24 and my sis is 26 neither one of us live at home and we still do this

if it bothers you though that your sis say bad things about your mom i would talk to your sis and tell her it bothers you and you dont want her to say those things to you anymore she will find someone else to vent to