I get occasional diarrhea, & I live in a shared apartment for the mentally ill. I accidentally doo-dooed on my roommate's bathroom rug without realizing it. I apologized & handwashed the rug since I'm poor-otherwise I would've taken it to the laundromat, & she got mad & charged @ me with 2 knives & called me trifling, nasty, & unsanitary. But I didn't mean to do it. It was TOTAL accident.
The police was called & said she had every right & thought the situation was hilarious.
Ever since then, she has been intentionally urinating ON the toilet SEAT & stealing my tissue paper, when everyone else in the house buys their own tissue. Does she think someone is supposed to clean up her mess & be her maid? I don't think so!
2007-03-20 13:01:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No one should ever threaten you with knives! That is a NO NO!!!! What if she could have killed you? To me, that is being selfish, stubborn, and childish. But seeing as she is mentally ill, she probably couldn't help her anger. Still, you should consult a counselor or someone who can help with her anger management.
Besides, if you were trifling, nasty, and unsanitary, would you have apologized and cleaned the rug? No, you would have said, "So what?" and then have left it alone on the rug. THAT is unsanitary! But you did the right thing. The police were wrong for laughing...they could have been dealing with a dead body.
Don't clean up her mess. If you must, do so, otherwise you could get an infection. Hide your toilet paper somewhere safe.
2007-03-20 13:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by *ReJeCtEd* 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Frankly, I think the best solution would be to move out. If that is not possible, then you need to reconcile with your roommate. I know this isn't going to be a popular answer, but the fact is that she is your roommate. Living in such a volatile, antagonistic situation is unhealthy and possibly dangerous. You must end the war before it escalates.
I suggest you sit down with your roommate and ask her what it will take to resolve matters. She will probably yell at you, blame you, and call you names. Do not get defensive, do not yell back, and do not blame her. The point is not who is justified and who is at fault -- the point is to reconcile. Stay focused on that.
Let your roommate get her feelings out. Hopefully she will eventually stop yelling when you don't yell back and feed her anger. Then ask her what it will take to end the fight. Try offering her things: another apology, a new rug, etc. Be humble. It's possible that your willingness to admit to your errors will lead her to admit to hers. But even if it doesn't, that's okay -- sometimes you have to be the bigger person and make the sacrifice for the greater good.
Personally, if I were your roommate, I'd want a new rug. Because you can't afford to buy one outright, offer to give her some money each week until it's enough.
Is it wrong for your roommate to urinate on the toilet seat? Of course it is. But try to be understanding of her feelings. Haven't you ever gotten really upset about something? Perhaps overreacted and did something you later regretted? I think everybody has. Just accept what your roommate did, put it in the past, and make peace with her. Best of luck.
2007-03-21 03:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by Winnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you did say that it was an accident, although the scenario you described was definitely disgusting and of your own doing, but again, you took responsibility for it. What you don't have to take is her crap. If the police laughed and agreed with her actions, what you should do is get a copy of the police report and report those officers. They were inappropriate and unprofessional. As far as what your roommate is doing now, well that's not just vindictive, it's bizarre, provocative and harassing. Before the situation gets any worse, you need to discuss what is going on and try to find a way to resolve it. Otherwise, it could escalate and become much worse. At that point, the police would have to take what happened seriously, but the ramifications and repercussions can get very ugly.
2007-03-20 20:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by sustasue 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm, this seems a little strange. If you are in a shared home for the mentally ill why are there knives in the house? Why would the police think a knife attack funny? Until you can figure these problems out I suggest you buy a lot of disinfectants and maybe an insecticide as well.
2007-03-20 20:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by papricka w 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah I think your both freaking nuts.
Who goes to the bathroom on the rug -- how did you miss?
And if your in a place for the mentally ill -- how did she get knives?
Talk to your therapists about that one.
2007-03-20 20:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by Okaydokay21 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
ewwwww, thats so gross. you need a new roomate and you need to stay on the potty properly
2007-03-20 20:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋
s**t on her pillow!
2007-03-20 20:05:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋