Its just me..no help from family or friends. How to keep from being bitter that you have no choice to be the care giver? I am out of patiences and need a break but its not an option..what can you advise to help me get thru stressfull moments?
2007-03-20 12:56:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
I took mini vacations......I sat outside and listened to the birds. I took long, hot baths,an occasional pedicure or manicure....a message therapy. I also took walks.
I understand completely. I did everything my precious parents needed. My sister,though she lived a few hours away, did little,if any,to help. My brother helped when I asked him. Then HE got mad at my sister. Then I resented HIM...."You didn't see her lack of help until I asked YOU to help!!" His answer..."Point well taken."
Here's the real deal...I was there for my darling parents....I did all that I could think of. I was given a rare gift to have had this time with my parents.....any pains or resentments I may have harbored from childhood on...let me tell you...they were replaced with the present moment. My parents knew the truth. God knew the truth. I knew the truth. As it turns out....actually all observers knew who was helping and who wasn't.
You may need to speak to a professional about services you may avail yourself of. <<<<<<<<<<<
DO NOT take yor frustrations and anger out on the patient. Being a complainer or a martyr is not good for anyone.Believe me...they are more unhappy about all of this than you'll ever know!
If I had it to do all over again, I would!! WHY??? Because my parents needed me....it is that simple.
God bless you. Do what you need to do for yourself so that YOUR health doesn't go down the drain. YOur person needs you. Ask God for strength. I am proud of you.
I wrote all of this quickly...it may not be well organized. I'm sorry. I had so much to say to you.
2007-03-20 13:13:46 · answer #1 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a handicap can be anything that hold a person back... for instance if you have a name you really hate and have been teased mercifully about it you could say the name is a handicap... a person with a disability has a an illness, disease, disorder, or injury that is either permanent or very long term... mental illness, emotional disorders, multiple sclerosis, blindness, developmental delay, amputation etc are disabilities. However a person can have a disability and not consider it a handicap. Many people in the deaf community do think of themselves as disabled or handicapped... Professor Stephen Hawking would no doubt not consider his disability to be a handicap. In increasing numbers people are beginning to see that disabilities are not necesarily handicaps and many are beginning to consider people with these conditions to be differently abled.
2016-03-29 09:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your local county or city health organization for suggestions. Giving constant care without relief is like torture. There are day care options. And don't be afraid to consider that it's time for some specialty place to take care of the person. You should not have to pay for this. Do not feel guilty..... you do not have to be the caregiver. I'm sure that there's a solution for this. Give the family fair warning. Bless you. And how are some people able to do it? It's one of God's gifts.
2007-03-20 13:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by Neil L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did it to how do you get through it one day at a time and know they are better off with you there you have a big heart you hire some one to come in and care for them for a while and get out talk to a friend listen to music you said it all know you are not alone and knowing that this is the best hope you get a lot more answer good luck
2007-03-20 13:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by marsh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, just try to remember that the disabled don't choose to be that way. I know its hard I have been a caretaker but I am also a stroke survivor..I am partially blind and cant drive..Its all about attitude and try to rest when you can and try to do little things for yourself..try to find a support group that understands what you are dealing with..You just have to stay strong for both of you..God bless and good luck
2007-03-20 13:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by jojo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my husband has survived cancer twice and now he has alzheimers. it is becoming increasingly difficult to deal with him. most of the time your doctor or hospital will be able to steer you in the right direction for a support network. they are very helpful, everyone knows what you're dealing with. if you can't find one, call the local organization (if there is one) for the disease you are dealing with. if not and your doctor doesn't know of one, try the united way or caregivers.com
google caregivers and you will get tons of useful info. that's what i did. it's been a 20 yr battle but i've not felt alone often.
good luck and God bless.
2007-03-20 13:12:31 · answer #6 · answered by tamboz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I need more info about the type of disability or handicap in order to answer your question.
2007-03-20 13:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
some community hospitals have classes or meetings where they address just that problem you are having...check it out. I hope that helps.
2007-03-20 13:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by Pooks 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋