2007-03-20 12:55:49 · 31 answers · asked by peanut1973 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Before you start hating me it's not my wedding! (see my previous questions about Civil Partnership speeches!) It's my neighbour who is worried about asking joint friends who aren't that close but good fun.... Local people for local fun but not close enough to expect to pay for an expensive weekend away for the big do.
2007-03-20 13:17:59 · update #1
It is perfectly reasonable to do this as long as you make it clear that the wedding is a small (close family only?) affair. If that is the case, I am sure people will understand. I think it would be a little insensitive otherwise.
2007-03-20 13:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by Chris W 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it all depends.
If a work collegue say invited me to a hen do but not to her wedding and it was all very local and cheap then yes I'd probably go for a laugh. BUt if she was flying away and spending the weekend in a hotel or something then that is only for official guests at the wedding IMO.
Or if a couple couldn't invite everyone they wanted to the actual wedding - because of numbers, location whatever then its fine to have a big hen/stag bash - the grom/bride could even make a little speech saying that he/she is sorry not everyone could be with them on the big day because of X but that they are so pleased everyone has shown their support at the hen/stag do.
2007-03-21 06:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although is it generally considered bad form, you may find that your friends understand and are not offended by being invited to your stag/hen party but not the wedding itself. Common practice and etiquette dictates that doing so is not proper, but not everyone sees it this way. Check with your friends and make sure they are OK with the idea before you do anything. You might want to explain the situation to them. Some people don't care about what the proper etiquette protocol is and would be happy to come to your stag/hen party without attending the wedding. It is really an individual thing!
2007-03-20 13:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can invite who you want to your wedding mate, anyway those that are great fun and will be brill on your stag/hen do could also still come to the evening do of the wedding but not the reception. We are getting married in June and there are people who are coming on my hen do this weekend that are not going to the wedding and then there are those who are going to the evening do and hen night. Its individual choice and it whould work out however you want, people will understand.
2007-03-20 19:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by Jaksi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The general rule is only invite people to your stag/hen party that will be invited to the whole wedding.
In addition to this it's worth remembering that stag/hen nights can be quite expensive.
2007-03-21 13:32:09 · answer #5 · answered by Blueberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can do that if you want, it's your wedding. but any hen night I have been on, I have met the other hens at the wedding; another option would be to invite your hens for different "stages" of the wedding; last year I was at a wedding in a registry office where I was the only hen; the other hens had been asked either to the wedding reception or to the evening disco afterwards.
2007-03-20 13:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This depends on what kind of wedding you are having. If you are having a small, intimate, close family and friends only ceremony, then you can have a celebrating party with more friends before or after. But, if you are inviting a lot of people and mere acquittance's to your wedding, you risk insulting those who you only want to party with. So, unless you are having a very small ceremony your best bet is to only party with those who are invited to the wedding.
2007-03-20 13:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by Meredith W 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
NO!! That would be exceedingly rude.
If you invite them to a pre-wedding do then you invite them to the wedding too. If they dont want to come they can say no
(Stag/Hen party is the non-US version of a Bachelor/Bachelorette party)
2007-03-20 13:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as they understand they arent invited to the wedding then I dont see a problem with it. I only really think it rude to invite people to a bridal shower that arent invited to the wedding. its just an excuse to get gifts from people who arent taking part in your wedding. since there are no gifts at a stag/hen party then it shouldnt be a problem.
2007-03-20 13:47:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do not have to invite the same people to the shower/stag as to the wedding. Not everyone can afford the big wedding therefore showers/stagettes are the easiest way to celebrate with some acquaintances, co-workers and friends.
2007-03-20 13:03:34 · answer #10 · answered by M Elizabeth M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋