I have been hurt alot by alot of guys and the more it happends the more I find myself becomming more mean to myself and not trusting. I have always been the nice girl in the relationship and been loving and caring, almost a little too nice, but they always stop caring, and now im in a relationship and i really like him, but i cant get over all my other past relationships, i find myself comparing him to them, and worring that hell treat me like they did, so i always leave up a wall, and dont want to, but when ever i try to put it down i get scared and worried that if i get committed i might not be able to get out bfore its to late and i get hurt. I dont know what to do, and i feel guilty, cuz he likes me more than i like him, and it feels like im doing the same thing that people have done to me, (i dont hate the people whove done those things to me, i relize that everyone makes mistakes, i have forgave, but i cant forget, what is worng with me!!!>>???)
2007-03-20 12:42:07 · 5 answers · asked by xox Rebekah xox 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
IMO...it sounds as if you have forgiven THEM (the people in your past) for what they did to you but still blame yourself and have yet to "forgive yourself" for allowing yourself to be hurt by them. It usually is the second part of the "forgive and forget" equation that doesn't happen and you not only are keeping yourself from being happy and experiencing love, but also that person you're with. Hopefully you can forgive yourself and you may wanna let the other person in on what's going on before you see them writing this exact same question....Again...only my opinion.
2007-03-20 12:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are afraid of getting hurt again. I am in the same situation and mine is worse coz he is determined to marry me. i have my insecurites but also want to believe that each man is different from the other. If i do get hurt again, hopefully it will be after a long time. Go for it girl and make the best of it.
2007-03-20 19:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by oz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal You're trying to protect yourself emotionally. We all do it.
It might help to see a counselor about this.
2007-03-20 19:48:12 · answer #3 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are a little clingy? I'm sure that nothing is wrong with you though
2007-03-20 19:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by maryfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet someone just for you
2007-03-20 19:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by tuff luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋