i need help. i need to get over him, he's tearing up my heart!!! please help me, how do i?we've been together and broken up becuase he thinks i've lied about my past and i haven't. but he won't listen to me. it rips me apart when i see him talking to his former girlfriend (the one before me) i get so insanly jealous and he's not even my boyfriend anymore. we were together for about seven months. is there anything i can do? and my mom has told me to not have anything else to do with him. we're both seventeen
2007-03-20 12:41:28 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
i'm still in love with him
2007-03-20 12:41:57 · update #1
Let me start by telling you it is NOT your fault that he decided to call you a liar. You know what the truth is.
Now to get a little deeper into the subject. Look sweetheart I was in your shoes also when I was 17. I felt like I was truly deeply in love with my first love. Which at 17 I truly may have been. Either way I kept giving it a chance over and over again. My ex and I hurt each other over and over again cheating, calling names and lying. We went like this for 4 years. I ended up falling for someone else and left, but only after I had been crushed as a young lady. Just recently I have built myself up enough to be confident! Believe me beating yourself up will only bring you down.
Honestly, love does hurt a little, but true love won't hurt you to begin with. When you let things go like this over and over again you can drive yourself insane (as it sounds you are doing). I'm sure you go to school together and may have classes together which makes it even harder to just let it go. Lift your head up. Maybe have a girl's night just you and your gal friends. You'll see soon enough this guy is just... well... a guy. He may be someone you loved and lost, but he will forever be the guy who taught you what loving someone feels like. Think about everything that happened from the good to the bad. Write it all down and when you feel the impulse to go up to him read what you wrote down when you get home. At 17 you are just learning what love and TRUE friendships are. Build yourself up with what you like to do. Let him do what he wants to do because one day he's going to wake up and see what he lost. When that day comes it'll be far too late for him to come to you because you'll either be with someone else or you'll be a stronger person than you are now. Just remember no guy should be allowed to hurt you over and over again. You're a strong young lady and you CAN let this guy go.
2007-03-20 13:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 05:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by dudik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are what? 17? Puppy love, babe. You know that feeling you get when you have a new puppy? You are hanging onto that feeling. It is not love.
Your man is not that jerk you want now so your mamma is right (I know that is going to be hard to admit to yourself).
I suggest you play the field, while you work out the real range of your emotions. For example, you are not insanely jeolous.. you are being posessive of someone. That will never ever work, even when you eventually marry, your husband will need his own space and you both will need to compromise for each other.
Also bare in mind that guy is trying to work out his range of emotions too. Keep in mind.. women have been gifted with the power over men.... so you have a long and interesting life ahead.
2007-03-20 12:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by Icy Gazpacho 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey your only 17 for heaven sake.. you have a long life ahead of you. trust me you will look back in a years time and what the heck was I thinking. Breaking up is a good sign in that its a signal for one to move on!!. Take it as a way of lifes's defence mechanism for protecting you from harm. who knows what might have happened further down the line. its better this happens now than later on in life say when your 40+ when i might be diffcult to find partners etc. Everyday you go without him you become stronger. isn't that a good thing. Life is preparing you for for whenyou get older and have families. Keep yourself occupied if you can. Jelousy well dont be. the other girlfriend is enjoying your jelousy as it puts her in a stronger position. do you lreally want this. just ignor her and turn away. and she will be envious of your strength. in closing ..... ENJOY LIFE YOUR STILL YOUNG
2007-03-20 12:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by singing_saagar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are still young and I understan you have feeling for him but keep your head up high and a new boy toy will come aroung just don't show him that he is hurting you because boys tend to do more when they see that you are hurting once he see you with a new boy toy he will relize what he has lost also if he thinks you lied to him well the there the trust is broken and your relationship will never be the same without the trust there hope you feel better and be a strong woman and keep your head up high
2007-03-20 12:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by VAIN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a grip on things. If he won't believe you that you are telling the truth and wants to believe you lied then you are better off without him right now. Take some time to figure out what you want out of life and to learn how to get a life without a steady companion. You need to have hobbies and friends of you own.
2007-03-20 12:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like this is your first love and sometimes you never get over the first....
you're 17! You should not have much of a past at all. I pray that is true.
Just let him do his thing. Maybe someday you will come back together. Just live and have fun.... make good choices. You are 17!
2007-03-20 12:45:54 · answer #7 · answered by The Voice Of Reason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that hon! I was there a year ago, even love songs on the radio hurt too much. However give it time, I've met, and given my heart to an even cuter guy that warrents my love. I'll pray for you- take care
2007-03-20 12:49:44 · answer #8 · answered by author 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds he is just bailing.. and was looking for anyone else or a excuse to end the relationship. He should trust your word about your past. Besides, the past is the past... now is whats important. I know its harsh, but move on, learn from it, and find someone to Love even more passionately than him.
2007-03-20 12:45:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres multiple things you can do but the best thing to do is get over it (which is very hard). Find someone else that can get your mind off him. Or talk to him and see if you can get back together.
2007-03-20 12:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋