Need to wait a while (like 5 months) to propose to my g/f due to financial reasons (I'm a student working p/t) and situational concerns (I live with my parents). In 4 months I move out. I figure one or two months to adjust and then I'll propose.
Problem is I wish I could propose now. There is no way I could afford a ring while going to school for the semester, and I don't want to be engaged while living at home (like some of my friends). Any suggestions on how to pass the time without going crazy?
2007-03-20 12:32:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you love her and want to make her your soul mate for life, then propose now. Do it formally, ask her father for his daughter's hand. Wait until you can afford a ring to get a ring. I did it that way and I've been married for 35 years. We're still soul mates.
2007-03-20 12:42:12 · answer #1 · answered by John S 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to propose, then I say do it! You can always check with your local jeweler and see if they have a layaway plan, and I have never known a jeweler not to provide financing (and have heard that jewelry is the easiest thing in the world to get approved for financing).
The problem with proposing now without a ring is that the first thing her friends will do when she says "I got engaged!" is ask to see the ring. It may sound silly, but newly engaged girls are proud of this!
I would say don't propose without a ring. You can try going to a jeweler and getting a cubic zirconia in the ring and then when you can afford an acutal diamond, replacing the CZ with a diamond that's identical. Or do the complete non-traditional route as my friends did and dont' use diamonds at all. My friends have sapphires as their wedding rings, with diamond baguettes surrounding it.
2007-03-24 10:01:55 · answer #2 · answered by Travis and Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the real issue here is not being able to afford a nice ring :) I can understand how you feel... but girls like to be involved in picking out their ring too! This is the time to come to what used to be known as an 'understanding' back in the day. Most proposals don't come as a total surprise... so talk to your girl.. tell her what you told us.. that you want to marry her but not formally announce your engagement until you graduate and have a place of your own. Then you have the issue settled in your hearts.. where it really matters.. and when the time is right you can go shopping for the ring together :)
2007-03-20 12:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
waiting is best, you want to have a ring for her when you ask her. Just dont think about it right now, think about work and trying to make as much money as you can. Foucs on just being a boyfriend girlfriend couple because in few months there will be no more of that. That should get you through the first two months than the rest you should foucs on how to make it just perfect and how you should propose to her, try not to give her any hints, surprising her is best. Try pretending you already ask her the question, this way it wont keep poping up in your head. Before you know it, it will be the day. You said that you will be moving so foucs on the house, getting things all organized and such. moving will take your mind off of it for a while.
Congratulations
2007-03-20 12:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two things that you could do
1. Wait and buy the ring when you have the money
OR
2. Like some one else suggested, buy her a ring that you can afford and promise her that when you get the money you will buy her the ring she desires. (but keep your promise)
Why does it matter that you are engaged while at home! If you love her, money or where you live does not even count!
2007-03-20 13:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Well, the only thing I can think of is getting a cz, (to show her that you're serious about proposing), and proposing. Make sure she knows up front that it's a fake, and intended as more of a promise ring, and that you'll get her the real deal when you're on more solid financial footing. Best of luck!
2007-03-20 12:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by nockmdead 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what does it matter if you live at home or not and propose to your girlfriend!!if you truly love her than it really dowsn't matter! you obviously should know her enough not to feel ashamed and if you do than maybe you are not ready to take a step into that kind of commitment!
as for not being able to afford the ring-buy her a cheap one and tell her you will get her an official one once you get your financal credit together!! if she loves you she will under stand-
if not atleast talk to her about it-talk about marriage and get her input on the whole situation and how she feels-
like i said how many times if it is true love than it really shouldn't matter and if it does than it's not true love!
good luck!!!
2007-03-20 14:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by ang925 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell ya but you gotta wait it out!! I think she may be a bit dissapointed if you propose now and whoithout a ring! I always had to tell myself depending on what it is that whatever I have to wait for will still be there when Im ready. In this case Im sure she will be there.
2007-03-20 14:27:46 · answer #8 · answered by crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 07:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One Suggestion Is To Ask For Your Family To Support You While You Are Proposing....I Myself Did Not Have That Problem Because I Am Wealthy But I Hope This Helps
2007-03-20 12:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋