That's somewhat the situation I'm in and I sometimes think it really bothers my parents. I'm a good kid and never get into trouble or any of that. To me, everyone at school is very immature and they don't fit into what I want in life and the direction I'm going. My parents are always trying to convince me to go make friends or, even worse, convincing me that I actually do have them but 'just don't know it'. I know they mean well, but how do I convince my parents there is nothing wrong with me and, also, how do you think they feel towards me for this?
2007-03-20 12:29:22 · 35 answers · asked by fslcaptain737 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm seventeen, a male, and a Junior in high school.
2007-03-20 12:30:23 · update #1
It would bother me if my son wasn't popular but only because I want him to be happy and usually being popular makes people happy. I just want all the best for him.
2007-03-20 12:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 19:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do bother.
Your parents are worried of you for a valid reason. They just want you to be happy. They can't be there for you forever but true friends will be there whenever you need them.
Please appreciate the good intention of your parents. Respect & work on it. They are always wiser because they have been through a lot before they become who they are now. Change your perception of life. Try to think differently, move beyond your comfort zone, accepting some challenges making new friends.
You don't have to worry as to find ways to prove to them that you are OK. When you start to agree with your parents, your parents will even be more readily be there for you, giving advice to you when it's neccessary. You can bring home some good friends; show your parents of your who you are befriend of. I'm sure they woudn't be worried of you eventually, they just sit back and see you progress from there.
All the best!
2007-03-21 00:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by craftmania 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was never popular in school, and my 8 yr old isn't either. I always wanted her to be, because I wasn't. I want to shield her from any hurt. I tell her, you only need one good friend, not dozens of fake people around you. Your parents are just worried. I wouldn't waste too much time trying to convince them of anything, most people don't take teens seriously. Keep up the good work, and don't let high school kids bother you. After school you can move on to more positive things, and forget about them all. good luck
2007-03-20 14:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by pchiz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your parents want you to have a social life...like they probably did at your age. They're just worrying because they love you. It would worry me if my 17 year old didn't have any friends to speak of, just because I would be afraid he wasn't learning the social skills he'd need later on.
It's not about being popular. If you hung around with a group of computer geeks...I'm sure your parents would be much less nervous. I don't think there's anything 'wrong' with you...(and I know exactly what you mean about thinking the other kids are immature. I felt the same way in school) but your parents probably worry that you're hiding from the real world...rather than being independant.
2007-03-20 12:33:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people, llike you, are content to spend time by themselves.Your parents just want to feel sure that you are happy .There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Sometimes people are more intellectual and less social and this seems to be where you may fit. If you are truly happy then don't worry.Does your school have any clubs that you would be interested in joining?Sometimes it is nice to spend time with others who share a common interest so you can develop some social skills.
2007-03-22 13:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry - they will stop bothering you about it once you graduate and are doing a hundred times better than your classmates! I was never popular, and had a hard time b/c of neon hair, piercings, etc, but I am now 22, and soon to be opening my own business, while my classmates are getting drunk and spending their days on myspace talking about "the good old days"
You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, and you can see the difference between right and wrong, and how to be a good person. After high school, that's all that really matters!
Good luck!
2007-03-20 13:01:33 · answer #7 · answered by margarita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My oldest daughter is 13, and not really "in" with the popular kids, but she likes it that way. She thinks they are all snobby, stuck-up, and arrogant. She says they have no minds of their own, and follow one person like their pack-leader. I admire her for doing her own thing and being her own person. She too is a good kid, and does not get into any trouble. She's not anti-social by any means. She is an honor student, and runs track. I say keep up the good work, and don't let your parents get to you...you're on the right track! Tell them about all your accomplishments, and tell them you are content, happy, and well adjusted. That's all a parent could and should ask for! Good luck to you! :)
2007-03-20 13:38:43 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be fine with my kids not being popular, as long as they were kind hearted, well meaning people. If they were criminals in the making, then I would worry about what they are doing in their spare time.
Be yourself, unless you are a criminal in the making.
Just let your parents keep talking to you. Neither of you is listening to the other anyways. You may as well humor them. You should go to college after high school and meet people that you do have things in common with. There's a whole new world out there.
2007-03-20 14:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by JLB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great you have such a great head on your shoulders and that you realize what you want in life at such a young age. Once you're out of high school, none of that is going to matter. I doubt one of your interview questions when you get out of college and apply for that first big job is going to be "so how popular were you in HS?" You keep doing what makes you happy, and if your parents are too shallow to realize that, then just ignore it. As long as they support you and are there for you, then that's all they can ask. Parents are always going to have expectations for their children... it's just natural. You should just come home in a great mood everyday and exclaim how happy you are about all the homework you have and how you can't wait to get up to your room and finish it... just be enthusiastic about it. Maybe they'll eventually catch on. Good luck to you!
2007-03-20 13:38:07 · answer #10 · answered by Christina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think alot of parents think there is something wrong with their teenage children (to a degree). I think your parents are worried that this is the time in life where you should be living, having fun, experiencing things and that maybe your too mature for your age and it's holding you back. If your completely happy with who you are and really in your heart believe that your not missing out on anything - then tell them just that. I know if I had a child your age and he wasn't hanging out with anyone at least occasionally, I'd be worried. When people think people are lonely - its difficult to accept. Maybe your not lonely - but your parents thing you are and your just trying to act like your not.
2007-03-20 12:36:57 · answer #11 · answered by Vegas Man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋