my best friends fiance has just told her after along time of thinking, that he just wants to be friends, doesnt want to see her but still wants to remain friends but by talking on the phone. he let her keep the ring but said dont put it on just keep it in the box to look at and hope for the future that maybe we'll get back together. he also said i love you but am not 'in' love with you. thats he needs a clean slate and would be happy if she moved on.
i know this is confusing but this is what my best friend has told me. she does blame herself for the break up as she is very insecure costantly asking if he loved her, how much and saying i love you more than you love me. i know how she feels cos everytime she left my house she'd ask me q's do you think im happy, am i fun to be with, do you think tim and i are ok etc etc- and if you dont answer she gets annoyed and msgs more im not sure of the right answer she still has hopes but i feel that it seems like the end to their relationship.
2007-03-20 12:22:27 · 10 answers · asked by jenperera 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She is very insecure. She needs to move on with her life and find some self esteem before she gets into another relationship. She needs to do some soul searching and figure out why she is so insecure about herself. Also, she needs to tell him NO FRIENDSHIP because she will be unable to get over him if he's always around, even if it's on the phone, text messages or email. He needs to leave her alone if he really does want a 'clean slate.'
2007-03-20 12:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
perhaps the reason your friend was so insercure about herself is because deep down thats how he made her feel inside. He wasnt showing her enough love or showing his emotions to her. Its a heart ache for your friend right now, and it probably will be a heartache for a while, but in the end she will see that this was for the best. Marrying him wouldnt of solved anything and it would of ended in a even worse heart ache for both of them. She needs time with her family and friends and focus on what will make her happy. She needs to realize that a guy isnt going to complete her life right now and the only thing that will is knowing that she doesnt have to depend on anyone else. When the time comes and she mets mr right things will be a lot different, she wont be so scared about how he feels because he will show her and tell her all the time making her feel good about herself. This relationship that she was just in wasnt doing that for her, she just wanted to click with him, but there just wasnt anything there for them to click. Just be there for her and in time she will get over him. Best thing to do is give the ring back. Holding onto somthing like that will only make it worse. Its no good to her, and will only bring back old memories.
2007-03-20 12:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what the question is here, but I hope your friend is able to move on after what sounds like a painful breakup. I'm sure having you there will makes things easier for her.
I know I appreciate it most when my best friends are truly honest with me, even if it isn't what I want to hear, and even if it hurts. Tell her that you think their relationship is over, and you want to help her move on. Also, let her know that her constant insecurity is putting strain on her relationships - maybe she doesn't see it, or doesn't know how to fix it.
2007-03-20 12:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by eileezy2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a good thing he broke up with her. Thats too much to handle. She needs to seek counseling to get more secure with herself, her decisions, etc. Marriage was not the answer and at least the guy realized that before they both made a mistake. Tell her to go get some counseling.
2007-03-20 12:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by kelly-il 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a player... "maybe we'll get back together in the future..." Not likely!
She'd do well to get over the heartache as soon as possible and find someone who is worthy of her time and love.
2007-03-20 12:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by tamara_cyan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief, your friend needs to seriously work on her issues! If she continues to be this way, ANY relationship is doomed for her. If I were her I would cut all ties to this guy and move on, and try my best to learn my lessons. Hopefully the next one will be better.
2007-03-20 12:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this seems like something you friend needs to figure out on her own. But honestly if she doubted it so much, she didnt seem like she was in love.
2007-03-20 12:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to move on to a counselor to help her with her self esteem issues. only when she is comfortable with herself can she be in a mature relationship.
2007-03-20 13:17:35 · answer #8 · answered by Dawnita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....
that really sucks...
but yea....
when a girl is insecure, it pushes a guy away....
It makes sense...
Who wants to be with a negative person?...
2007-03-20 12:28:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry i don't know
2007-03-20 12:32:27 · answer #10 · answered by *_*wendy*_* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋