cheating partners?

Question

this goes out to anyone

if you got cheated in during a
2 month relationship
1 year relationship and
10 year marriage

what would you do in all situations..
revenge, get rid of or get over it..

past stories welcomed..

Answer 1

Hi there

Yes been here. The lessons that its taught me about relationships are the different kinds of people that are out there. There are some real nasty selfish people who will damage a relationship just for kicks. With regards to what to do some people do all three! Revenge, get rid, get over. I think the first two are usually done because you just cant get over the person you love. Once your over them you don't need revenge. Whats always bothered me is the gut feeling you get. Even though on the surface everything seems OK your gut tells you otherwise.

If its happening to you.

Good luck

Regards

idai

Answer 2

Cross examine myself,maybe i have failed in certain areas and then move on with my life. A cheater will always cheat no matter how geniune the reasons may be so there is no point hanging around such a person. In a 10 year marriage,i'll try my best to make my marriage work . If after putting all i can and i get exhausted i'll move on. Marriage is "for better for worse" so I'll put in a lot of effort before taking any major decision.

Answer 3

If you are in a committed relationship, it doesn't matter whether it is 1 month, 1 year or 11 years. Cheating is cheating and it is wrong. If you don't want to be in the relationship, then end it before moving on to someone else. Personally, and I am speaking for myself, I would be unable to forgive. I am a great believer in what goes round comes round and as far as I'm concerned a cheater will get his/her comeuppance sooner or later.

Answer 4

'lo! Happy topic...

1. Move on. Once a cheat always a cheat.
2. Smart. Cry. Move on. Possible badmouthing.
3. Hurt. Party. Hurt some more. End up being pleased that I can move on with my life.

Never easy. Life can only be better afterwards. After all, who wants to date a cheater?

Take care out there...

Answer 5

in the two month and 1 year just get rid of them, once a cheat always a cheat. If after 10 years of marriage it would be difficult to say depending on the circumstances, i would be willing to forgive especially if there are kids involved, the trust would be damaged though

Answer 6

i got cheated on during a 1 yr relationship and i warned the guy when he got involved with me that i cant stop him from cheating so if he does he better not let me find out cuz we would be over. i guess he didnt believe me cuz he cheated anywayz. i was tru to my word, same day i found out from a friend was the same day i broke up with him. no woman should accept that kind of b.s. from a man.

Answer 7

i was cheated on by my fiancee. we're still together but only just. she had a fling with a guy at work and it took her 12 months to get another job, leaving me with the emotional turmoil of knowing he was near her every day. when i found out (text messages on her phone) i rang the b**tard and told him to stay away if he knew what was good for him. i also rang his wife and told her. she moved out when she'd put the phone down. i went to her work and stood outside waiting for him to come out but the management had told him to stay indoors, a wise decision on their part. revenge has crossed my mind many times but as i belive that what goes round comes around i think its a bad idea. 2 wrongs dont make a right. i'm at this moment thinking about selling up and starting a fresh seeing as i find it very hard to believe her or trust her anymore. she has shown a lot of regret but it somehow doesnt seem enough for me to move on. i'm now very jealous and i dont like how its made me feel about myself. i was very confident but not anymore. its probably best to cut your losses and run.

Answer 8

I got cheated on in a 1 yr relationship and stayed with him for another 4yrs on top of that but then he did again so did I then things got nasty so I moved back home with mum and dad

Answer 9

2 mths and 1 yr - dump
10 yrs - depends on the strength of our relationship. I'd probably check 2 c if I've been neglecting him (don't get me wrong, THERE'S NO EXCUSE FOR CHEATIN, cos he could just as easily told me he aint happy) talk it over n try 2 save my marriage. revenge is a no no, but some severe punishment would be nice. u've been married for 10 yrs, u've gotta know how to piss him off. BUT DON'T KID YOURSELF, IF IT AINT WORKIN, GET RID OF HIM AND SAVE YOURSELF FURTHER MISERY.....

Answer 10

Time makes no difference he would be outta my life. If you cheat once, you'll do it again its only when you get caught, you promise never to do it again!!!!!!! Anyway, my boyfriend wouldnt do it to me, as I tell him why eat hamburger when you can have steak, we are both lucky that we dont need to as we bring lots of fun into the relationship all the time.