How can I deal with low self esteem?

Question

All my life I've had self-esteem issues, and at 25 I'm trying to break away from those stupid feelings of not being good enough. Anyone have any advice?

Answer 1

find something you enjoy and are good at then do more of it. whatever else it is that you do just believe that you can instead of making excuses of why you cant and the rest will just fall into place as you gain confidence

Answer 2

Try The SEA's Program
"Low self–esteem is at the root of behaviors which make your life feel unproductive or unmanageable. The purpose of the twelve–step recovery program of Self–Esteem Seekers Anonymous (the SEA's program) is to assist you to get life under self–control so as to feel more productive and successful."

Answer 3

Make a list of things that you were or are good at and/or any attributes that others have said about you. Remember things that you have done in the past or present that you accomplished. Compare yourself to only yourself and continue to improve on your strengths. Go over your "list" everyday. Take small risks where you can be successful. Go up to that "new" person at work and introduce yourself.Do volunteer work...Big Brothers/Big Sisters? Domestic Violence, homeless shelters, church? Hope this helps.

Answer 4

Your thoughts are just "Thoughts." They are neither true or false, they are just thoughts. YOU are the one who determines their relevance.

What you CHOOSE to THINK and BELIEVE about yourself is what determines how true something is for you.

If YOU choose to believe you are not enough, then you begin to act that in your life. However, if you choose to think and believe differently about yourself, then you will begin to act that in your life. What you think affects how you feel. How you feel affects your general mood. Your mood affects your actions.

You are enough. Tell yourself that over and over again. As the feelings of NOT ENOUGH come up, focus on them and argue with them. If you focus on them and pay attention to them they will gradually dissolve until the feeling of I AM ENOUGH becomes stronger.

I'd like to add one more thing. STOP CRITICIZING YOURSELF FOR ANYTHING and/or EVERYTHING, NO MATTER WHAT.

Make a list (WRITE IT DOWN) of all the negative things you say to yourself, all of your self-criticisms. Then go over the list and try to figure out why you criticize yourself for that and when you started. You will find most of your SELF-criticisms originally came from someone else criticizing you and now you are just repeating what they said.

Ask yourself if the criticism is really true. If it's not true than stop criticizing yourself about it. If it is true, and you WANT TO change it (say you're sloppy and want to be neater) than make the change and stop criticizing yourself for it. If it's true and you DON'T WANT TO change it, then don't change it and stop criticizing yourself about it. If its true and you cannot (maybe you think you're too short or too tall), then stop criticizing yourself about it.

Finally, take a little time each day to tell yourself that you love yourself. Stand in front of the mirror and look yourself in the eye and tell yourself that you love yourself. Doing this will bring all of your negative thoughts, feelings and beliefs about yourself to the surface, and may even make you cry. It may take some time, but if you are consistent you will begin to feel the love you have for yourself.

Answer 5

Hi,
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God Bless~~

Answer 6

tim is hot. tim is sexy. tim is smart. tim is young. tim is desirable. tim is wanted. ............now you repeat every morning and night until you believe it too..................................................i workout or tan and instantly feel better about myself. try it.