I began suffering from sociophobia (social anxiety) in 1st year college and it has progressively gotten worse. I now have no friends and I have a resentment towards people in general, and especially those who have lots of friends and party a lot. I feel like I have lost the last 5 years of my life and my college experience is ruined. Even if I was somehow able to get over my sociophobia I still feel a crippling depression over the wasted time with no friends and no life experiences.
I feel like blowing my brains out with a shotgun. Has anyone felt like they've missed out on their college experience?
2007-03-20 12:07:43 · 5 answers · asked by michaelbolton10 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Dude, I have a story very similar to yours. I loved college and was very social. I had a lot of friends, and was dating a ton of girls (some at the same time - but shhh, nobody has to know).
When I was a junior in college, I was critically injured. I spent time in a coma, and after the accident, had to deal with several brain-related problems, like seizures, depression, and anxiety. I know how it feels, and I also feel like I missed out on the college experience. I'm still single, when everyone else I know got married and got great jobs.
I don't think it's fair and I hate life sometimes. Having my life back is great, but what kind of life is it, when your chance is gone. I feel bad, like guilty, that I did something to ruin my life and now have to live with the consequences. I feel like I will never find someone and be able to love her, because I think I don't deserve love. I feel like I died when I was 22.
2007-03-20 12:18:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can relate. I waited over 6 years before returning to college out of high school. All of my friends from school have returned for their masters and live in other countries, travel, etc. But rather than letting this depress me, I chose to take it as a challenge. A reason for me to be motivated and accomplish what I know I can. Afterall, if everyone can do it don't you think you could? Even with a disablility due to mental health, you have unlimited potential in college and beyond. Your experience is ruined only if you decide to give up.
And the friend issue, I know that feeling of not having anyone. My closest friends are on the other side of the world and I tend to stay at home more than seek out a social life, mostly because the difficulty to find quality people. I don't really feel that it is necessary to party anymore, maybe because I got it out of my system early. Also, I believe that a person really making the most of their college experience isn't engaging in a lot of partying. To tell you the truth although a lot of people associate collegiate gatherings with beer bongs, some actually see it as a way to advance in the world and make the most of a wonderful opportunity.
Personally, I don't value anyone's opinion of myself higher than my own. I feel everyone should be this way due to the fact that no one else will ever experience what you will in your lifetime. We are all unique creatures and the saying is true that 'you are your own best friend'. People pass through your life, some stay longer than others, but the really important part is how it effects you. Many believe that they have no control over this, but the opposite is true. You have the ULTIMATE control over how you are affected, it is a choice you make. And ultimately your thoughts create how you feel. Hope this helped.
2007-03-20 19:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by CuriousJorge 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have missed out on college. I got into a serious relationship with a girl when I was in college, and this girl has strict parents so we have to go home early. No night life.
We got married early so after a boring college life came a boring married life. Eventually we got separated because my mind was still set on having fun.
I got what I wanted but as a result, lost my wife and two kids.
Don't blow your brains just yet... just look for friends and have fun. Just leave the past behind and learn to want what you got.
2007-03-28 04:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by DangerBoi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have missed out on many important events and opportunities. I have spent most of my life depressed. However I have never once thought about killing myself. Isn't that rather severe? I really can't help you and don't know what to say. I wish I did.
2007-03-20 19:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by moonsister_98 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah but it's cause i had a baby when I was sixteen. Appreciate that you even got there
2007-03-24 18:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by tarakootenay 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋