He says i am his whole world but he is just tired.?
My husband feels like having sex only once a month or sometimes once every two months...I know he isn't having an affair because we work together and come home together and he hardly ever goes out alone...he says he is just tired and stressed and doesnt' feel like it..he says he loves me more than anything in the world and that i am a totally knockout...but this worries me...is it normal for a man of 41 to have such a poor sex drive...everything works properly but he doesn't feel like using it except for peeing.
2007-03-20 11:59:55 · 8 answers · asked by Melina A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, this is all very possible. I am going through the same thing.....it's not like my wife doesn't turn me on, I'm just tired. Hopefully in the future he (and me) will get our "second wind" and thing will be back like they were. Don't worry about this......your marriage isn't based on sex, it's based on love....Best of luck to you.
2007-03-20 12:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be normal for the two of you, but it's not unusual. He's getting older, and men's sex drives do tend to wane after a while. Also, he really is telling the truth when he says he's stressed and tired--those are two main reasons given for the temporary decline of male sex drive.
Also, could it be that he has performance anxiety? As guys get older, they can't always be as assured that things will work as they used to. Or could he be depressed? A person doesn't have to have anything to be sad about to be depressed--it's a clinical condition dealing with brain chemistry, not an emotional feeling. Speaking of which, is he on any antidepressants? Those have been known to cause a drop in sex drive.
2007-03-20 12:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The male sex drive starts going down at age 35. It's just a bad joke by mother nature that females peak in the early 30s. Stress can cause all kinds of performance issues with men. So can heart problems. How is his health besides this issue? I would ask your mother/sister -in-law if this is a family trend.
2007-03-20 12:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 41 and no, it's not normal. Healthy, active men generally don't lose interest in having sex at my age, but we can lose interest in having sex with a particular woman for any number of reasons. Common exceptions are in case of some medications, depression, stress, etc.
Based on the comments you say he makes to you, it sounds like he really loves you. I really love my wife too, but I have absolutely no desire to have sex with her for reasons I won't put here. My sex drive is fully intact, though.
My suggestion is to simply ask him what happened to make him lose interest in having sex with you. Allow and be prepared for a brutally honest answer that you will probably not like.
Good luck!
2007-03-20 12:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by Leroy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You lost me as soon as you said you don't want to have sex. I'm sure that's where he got lost too. Unfortunately for you, god gave man two heads and only enough blood to run one at a time, so that should answer your question :P
2007-03-20 12:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by vasya v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may be a case of lack of sexualality he stil loves you but
he is so stressed that maybe you should help alot !!!! over the weekend hang out and you know " play"
2007-03-20 12:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by Tianna J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, he's not cheating on you. When my father was cheating on my mother, he felt so guilty, each time he was with the women he was cheating with, he bought presents for my mother, sister and me. So, if he were cheating. He'd be showering you with presents. If he ends up acting overly nice and seems guilty about something, he probably is.
2007-03-20 12:04:10 · answer #7 · answered by Isabella R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is stressed. Take him on a long vacation and i am sure it will be used for more.
2007-03-20 12:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by hascht2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋