how would i bring up questiong my g/f about her past. u know w/o pissing her off. the **** doesnt bother me, but every now and then she brings something up from her past that bothers me. i just want her to tell me this stuff all at once and we can sort the mess out.
2007-03-20 11:53:03 · 12 answers · asked by defensor-fortis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait until the beautiful weather comes n take her on a nice picnic ,somewhere secluded ,u n her.Tell her that u feel that in a relationship there is trust, love,n communication.Tell her that u need to be serious about something n want to talk to her about it but at the same time I'm afraid your going to be angry at me for wanting to ask u this or asking u what I'm Hopefully she will say something that will make it ok to ask.Make her feel as comfortable as possible.Let her no how much she can trust u so she can open up 2 u about her past.
2007-03-20 12:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it from a girl with a past and in a healthy relationship and very happy, let her tell you as she feels comfortable letting you know, she is probably beginning to trust you and is giving you a little at a time bcuz she thinks it might be too much at once....i know it must be bothering you to really know it all, but for now you dont need all the dirty little details, and when you do find out just remember what you love about her and forget the past.....i am very fortunate that my fiance' is completely ok with my pasted......and dont forget she may not want to dwell on the past but it is a part of her memories so dont hold it against her for sharing them even though you may not want to hear them....
2007-03-20 11:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by babygurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just start asking her questions. if you want to know about how many boyfriends or what ever she's had then say just that. you need to be honest about what you want to know and how your going to approach saying it to her. honest communication. you can say to her your intention is not to hurt her, but you want to get these things straightened out because it seems to creep up from time to time and you would rather get it straight now then it come up out of the blue. if thats the approach you want to take. sometimes though putting it like that might be threatening to the other person cause they may feel backed into a corner. especially if she is not ready to disclose it all at once. it is her perogative if she wants to lay it all out there. she may prefer taking a slower approach to this as she gets more comfortable with you over a period of time. if you feel it a mess, you might want to talk to other people about it face to face first, so you can get feed back up front on what they think your approach is.
2007-03-20 12:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the version if she became with 3 men and had intercourse 2000 circumstances. Does that incredibly make her from now on advantageous. it would definetly intimidate a guy with little sexual journey he may be competing against one hundred different men on a similar time as being with you, no longer focusing on a emotion and connection durring love making.
2016-10-01 06:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on what you want to know. You have the right to know if she has any STD's but other than that it really isn't your business. You can ask her who she dated but not what she did with them. Remember somethings can break you up when you hear them. You can't forget some things that you hear. So think first before you get more knowledge than you can handle.
2007-03-20 12:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shouldnt be bringing up her past in front of you to begin with,,,and you shouldnt ask her about it either. Her past is her past. Im sure you have done things you arent proud of either, Let the past lie in the past and if she brings it up just tell her that you would appreciate it if she wouldnt bring things up.
2007-03-20 11:58:24 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is ask her. When she tells you, ask her if there's anything else about her past that you need to know. After that just say baby that's your past and we are the future so that's enough about the past.
2007-03-20 12:04:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
her past shouldn't make a difference
but yeah just ask her about it tell her you want the 2 of you to just talk at like dinner or somethin
2007-03-20 11:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by tt_2011_86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tlel her exactly what you just said. "Maybe we should go out to lunch some time and just tell each other about our pasts all at once so it's not mixed up.. so we can sort this out." best of luck.
2007-03-20 11:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you wrote on here.Tell her you want everything out in the open in your relationship.
2007-03-20 11:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jodi C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋