Its not really easy to talk about this but it would help, last week my dad beat me up, i broke some of my ribs and my sholder, i had to get stiches in my head, i wanna tell somone but im afraid that he might find out or that it will get him into trouble, i told every one that i fell downstairs and they believed me. He didnt have a reason he just did it because he felt like it and im afraid incase he does it again, its just me and him, my mom died last year and my big sister lives in California and i live in Michigan, is there anyone who i can talk to or tell but not a counsellor or anything because i think that might get him put in jail.
2007-03-20 11:52:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are in a really tough position! What concerns me most is that your dad beat you so severely that you have serious injuries. The next time it could be worse -- even fatal.
This isn't your fault; your dad has a serious problem, and he needs counseling. Do you have grandparents or an aunt or uncle who could take you in for a while? Or maybe your sister in CA?
Your first priority is to take care of yourself so you won't get hurt again. Please don't put up with this brutal treatment.
2007-03-20 12:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by asterisk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Katie! This is such a hard thing for you to go through alone.
Has your dad been violent before?
I really DO understand how you worry about getting your dad in trouble....honestly I do. Even when parents are cruel to us, it's the only thing we have and then there are times when they are nice too. It would be a difficult situation for an adult to be in let alone a young person.
Are you able to talk to your sister? Is she much older than you?
Have you ever thought that through telling someone you could actually be HELPING your dad AND yourself?
By telling someone it doesn't mean he will go to jail but it WILL mean that there will be someone to watch over you and someone to help your dad with his anger.
It would be a very brave and grown up thing to do, to seek help. I would get in touch with the appropriate services and speak to them. TELL them your fears about getting your dad in trouble and about him going to jail.
I know that's hard but you need to stop this now. It is possible you know that he will go too far next time.... the strength of a man in a rage can be enough to kill even if it wasn't intended.
I strongly urge you to make that change in both your lives today and make that phonecall.
Please do not be a victim....he may be your father but, in a way that makes it even sadder.
If you don't get help....how will your father KNOW he's gone too far? It WILL in all liklihood happen again...and again.
I see that you also have a baby....even more reason to get the help you need. Bestrong be brave, do what you know you must....then things will get so much better.
Best wishes....get help soon!!
2007-03-20 12:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I know you don't want to hear this, but what he did is wrong. He had no right to place his hands on you like that. When you are bad you have to face the consequences. If he has beaten you this bad the first time, the next time could be fatal.
Check to see if there is a kids help line in your area and talk to them. Your councellors at school can help you as well.
Make an anonymus call to the local crisis line, see what they say.
Get help. He will hit you again, and it will get worse. He needs to be held accountable for his actions, and you need to know you can be safe in your own home.
2007-03-20 12:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lupa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hate to hear what you're going through. I bet you feel alone. Do you have grandparents? Could you possibly talk to your sister in Calif.? Maybe you could discuss moving out there with her for a while?
I know you don't want to get your father in trouble, but what he's doing to you is wrong; just wrong. He needs help...like yesterday. Keeping quiet about the situation is NOT going to help him or you. The next time you might not be around to ask a question on Yahoo!
Please seriously consider talking to a counselor...or your sister. Take care of yourself!
2007-03-20 12:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by moonbody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone, a priest, school nurse, social worker. Why not tell your sister maybe she can do something. You have to do something real soon before he hurts you worst then he already has. You say you don`t want to because he may go to jail. I understand, but you do not need to go through this. Your father has a problem and you are not responsible. GET A HOLD OF YOUR SISTER AND TELL HER
2007-03-20 12:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you're going through. my dad is abusive too. not that extreme tho. and not so much to me. mainly my little brother. He beats him when he doesnt obey. i've often wondered what to do. i'll try to help. first you HAVE to understand this!!!....It's NOT your fault. you had nothing to do with this. it was your dad's choice. do not blame yourself! Next, it is not ok for him to do that to you. its not. dont think about what you can do that will be best for both of you. Any route you chose to help yourself will end in jail for him. this is smething you will just have to live with. LOVE DOESNT LEAVE A SCAR. he made his choice. you didnt have one. now you do. deep down, honestly, you know what's the right thing to do. keeping this a secret won't help either of u! at all! you will be seriously hurt, maybe permanently. and he will never change unless he is punished. i know this hard. it should never happen but it does. think about it. be brave. i'm always here.
2007-03-20 12:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hospital didn't question your injuries? I find it odd that they would not question so many injuries from falling down the stairs.
Secondly, why wouldn't you want your father put in jail for doing such things to you? Call your sister. Tell the counselor. Call the hospital that treated you. Quit protecting the scum of a father you have!
Good luck!
2007-03-20 11:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the worse kind of abuse is the one done for no reason at all. it depends how old you are. i suggest you make friends with people, get a job and save up a lot of money, have good grades, and be ready to move out so then you can get help from a counselor and have nothing to lose.
2007-03-20 12:03:56 · answer #8 · answered by morobell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i a dad my self, an one thing you do do is beat your kids up, now i dont know what age you are, but i think you need to , tell the truth,, it only going to get worse,,,yes if they find out he going to jail,, try call your sister an talk to her
2007-03-21 00:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u ever heard of the book, "child called 'it'" that is a book about child abuse. the little boy ended up telling someone and the kid is now like 40 yrs old. you need to tell someone about this. think about this question, what will happen to u if u do tell someone and what will happen to u if u dont?
good luck and
God bless
2007-03-20 12:04:18 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋