i want to go to my bfs house on sat. but i'm not actually going to go in his house we are going to hang out outside. we aren't going to do anything maybe a little hug. but thats it. i'm 14. how do i ask my mom? i know she would let me but whenever i'm about to ask her i start feeling weird..
2007-03-20 11:48:12 · 15 answers · asked by socalgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ask for a ride..
2007-03-20 11:50:54 · update #1
i feel weird cus i never had a bf b4 and she teases me about it.
2007-03-20 11:55:52 · update #2
HiMom! (Insert name here) and I want to hangout on saturday. We wanted to hangout at his house in his backyard at (time) until (time) (or you can say "we arent sure what time we will be done, what time is good for you mom?"). Don't worry Mom his parents are going to be there the whole time supervising. I also respect your rules and i know what you expect of me. Do you think i might be able to go?"
Give her all of the facts straight forward. You can do this! Good Luck!
2007-03-20 11:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by Abercrombie Queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you "start feeling wierd" because you are having intuition that maybe "a little hug" isn't all that could happen between you and your boyfriend.
I think you should have your bf over to your house, or meet in a public place, until you feel more comfortable about your relationship. Also, I would suggest having your mom meet your bf and your bf's family so everyone feels good about you two being together.
2007-03-20 18:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by bonnechancepetitchat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That weird feeling you're getting is your intuition telling you that you are about to do something you really shouldn't. In this case it's urging you not to be dishonest to your mother. It may not seem like such a big deal to you on this issue, but dishonesty is a "slippery slope" if you know what I mean.
Generally, you should always respect your intuition. It can keep you out of trouble and prevent you from making bad choices that can have really unforseen negative consequences.
2007-03-20 18:55:11 · answer #3 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The advice to get him to come to your house is good.
The bit about the "maybe a little hug" is not so good if you're alone at his house, because a little hug will involve him squeezing your breasts and that can very quickly lead to fondling your breasts and on to him fingering your vagina and then full-blown intercourse. Parents know all this. They were once fourteen as well.
2007-03-20 19:29:06 · answer #4 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know why you're feeling weird. i did the same thing when i was your age. you know that you guys aren't really going to be at his house and you know that you're straight up lieing to your mom. and you know what, if you have that feeling, then that's great that shows that you do have a good relationship with your mom and care about her and love her. maybe just tell her, you know is it okay if i go to his house and go on walks and do stuff? just be cool when you ask her and if she asks you anything like, "are you goign to do anything i wouldnt want you to do" like mom stuff like that, just say that you're not going to. just be cool and i can reassure you that it will all be just fine. have fun with your bf saturday!
2007-03-20 18:53:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do something nice for her. Be helpful before Saturday and be nice. When the time comes, ask if you can go to your bf's house. Put emphasis that you're going to be outside with parents nearby. If she starts to decline, plea with her that you really like him and ask her if she has felt that way and how she would feel if someone coldy said "no" to her.
2007-03-20 18:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by ninjitsumeiyo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 14, then too young to go for such a risk. Suppose during a hug, he may go and ask for sex, then what you will do. Sex at 14 is quite harmfull.
2007-03-20 19:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by Hafeez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her straight out. Parents like honestly and if you build it now later you wont regret it. If she says no ask her why but do it calmly. And dont throw anger and resentment. If you show her respect then you will receive respect from her. It works try it.
2007-03-20 18:52:12 · answer #8 · answered by hascht2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she feels your responsible enough and you know she is going to say yes, then don't fret. It may feel weird because you probably aren't experienced to go to another guy's house. trust me, i would feel weird too.
2007-03-20 18:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your bf to come over to your house instead. That way your mom can meet him and hopefully except that your getting older.
2007-03-20 19:17:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋