2007-03-20 11:48:00 · 12 answers · asked by Angela C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I was a Preschool teacher for 10 years and would notice the other child or children doing what they were supposed to be doing (caught being good) like "I like the way Timmy is sitting! Oh, and there goes Jenna sitting just like she is supposed to. Now tell me, who would like to show me how to sit?"
This works with most everything. It got to a point where all I had to say was "I like the way..." and they would all sit at the table or sit in the circle quietly or wash their hands quietly.
Whether it was my own children or the whole class, you want to tell preschoolers what you like to see.
Stay positive- "Feet on the ground" instead of "get off the table".
Hope this helps : )
2007-03-20 12:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by squeezy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be consistent. When they have done wrong, get down on their level. In a calm but firm voice tell them that you don't expect that behavior from them and if they do it again they will go to the corner. Then stick behind your threats. If not they will know that you are not serious. Also, stay calm. If they see that you get frazzled they will act up. Be patient. It will happen if you do this every time.
2007-03-20 19:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by Beth W 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had this problem with my first child. And what i found was that I was talking to much tryin to explain things to much and saying the word bad to much. Also putting the bad on the child instead of the behaviour. So what you wanna do is say no lots. then say please be a good boy or girl rather then telling them they're being bad.. Praise when they are in fact good but only with words IE: mommy's good little... is so special. And when they do misbehave stay steady with your punishment. sounds like you quickly abandon what isn't workin. Oh and never let them see you sweat.
2007-03-20 18:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by tarakootenay 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
With my extremely active 5 year-old, the most important thing is speaking to him clearly, calmly and following through with what I said. I think also it's good to set up expectations, like getting out of the car let him know 'we're going in the store to buy milk and not toys, and I expect you to stay with me and not touch things.' (This works well when you're taking them out of the car seat since you're right on their level anyway.) And most important is follow through on what you said. If he starts acting up, respond to it right then and there, don't wait till it annoys you enough to spank the kid. Pretty much any punishment you can think up, time out of not getting treats or whatever will work as long as you lay down the rules clearly and calmly and stick with them.
2007-03-20 20:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by Lamborama 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time outs WOULD work if you were consitent with them. Obviously since you have resorted to hitting you weren't consistent with the time outs. Hitting isn't going to work because all you are teaching is how to hit and your own lack of intelligence and patients in being consistent. Apes hit their offspring...as a human one would think that you would be at least a little more intelligent than apes...
2007-03-20 18:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
How about a good behavior system. Every time they do something good, or listen to you, they get a star. After a whole row of stars they can get a special treat.
2007-03-20 21:42:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Consistency is the key required here. When you tell them no, mean it and don't say OK two minutes later. If you tell them not to do something and they do it punish them consistently.
They have to understand that you mean business all the time.
When they are good show affection, but don't let them try to get around you and do what you have told them not to do.
2007-03-20 18:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by don n 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2007-03-20 22:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by wxy0062003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take his favorite toy away tell him when he learns to listen to his parents then he can have the toy back if he contiues this behavr take another toy away and continue untill he gets the point ! ( it should not take that long ) God Bless,Heather
2007-03-21 01:40:54 · answer #9 · answered by must_love_dogs_and_me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
umm id like to tell you something...dont spank kids that can be consider as assaukt exspeciellly pre-schoolers...they arent going to listen ne better if you do
2007-03-20 18:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋