My son was invited to a birthday party and the invite says "no gifts please". Part of me wants to respect the parents' wishes but on the other hand I dont want my son to be the only child that doesnt take a gift and they brought a gift to my child's party....your thoughts?
2007-03-20 11:43:47 · 13 answers · asked by Staying Quiet 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
RSVP to the invitation by phone (or if you already RSVPed, then just call), and speak to the parents, just to make sure. If they say don't bring a gift, then you should respect their wishes. If they say "it's not neccesary", you should make it sound like its no problem for you "Would it be ok if i did bring a gift?", then see what they say. They may want to be taking pressure off by making it optional. Just give them a call, they'll understand.
Good luck! I hope this helped.
2007-03-20 11:51:33 · answer #1 · answered by Becky 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Had this just happen. I called the parent and said I really felt uncomfortable but she explained that she wanted to stress to her child that it was the gift of friendship that was important, not an object. Then she suggested my child make a little book or card with a detailed drawing for him to hang up in his bedroom. Even though a kid or two brought a gift, my child did not feel bad because they toiled on that book. :)
2007-03-20 22:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by justamigal 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. And not very considerate of the poor little kid who is having the party. I mean, afterall, can you imagine any little kid having to have a party knowing that they are NOT going to get any gifts???? This is a big deal for any child. It's one of the nice things in childhood.
But, what I would do in this case, is I would bring a gift anyway, and keep it in the car, just in case. I would also tell my child that they may not be giving gifts at the party, but just in case they do give the party child gifts anyway, we are going to bring a gift, but not present it to the child right away. And, if it turns out that the child is simply not allowed to accept any gifts, I would explain to my child that in this event, we will be returning the gift to the store, and purchasing a thank you of some type to give/send to the family having the party to thank them for inviting us to the party.
I don't know if this is proper "etiquette" or not, but I am giving you my honest opinion from my heart.
2007-03-20 19:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by Meow! 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yippee!! Finally a Mom that`s not so materialistic. I had a mom call me to make sure I got a certain gift for her child because he wanted it so much, how RUDE!! She even told me the price!! That`s great that she specified NO GIFTS, I wouldn`t bring anything!!
2007-03-20 20:10:25 · answer #4 · answered by lost2day 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would ask the parents why they are doing the no gifts. I'd also check with other parents who's children are invited and see what they are doing.
2007-03-21 04:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would still take something small like make a little cake or take flowers/balloons or something the child can actually use/eat on the day - then its not classified as a gift.
2007-03-20 19:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by kay f 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe the parents religion means they don't take gifts. I think the mormons don't accept gifts or even celebrate birthdays.
I htink teh best thing would be to ring the parents to RSVP (as others have said) and discuss with them.
2007-03-20 20:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I say call and ask them, that is just strange to have a child's birthday party with a "no gifts" note. My main thought is that these folks are really weird.
2007-03-20 19:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
follow there wishes
u could give the child the gift some other time:)
2007-03-20 18:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by Stuntman Mike 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is trying to teach her child values.
2007-03-20 22:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by ronsfreak 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋