Is my guy really into me or am i just temporary?

Question

I'm afraid he's just in it for fun or until something better comes along.

When we started dating I told him I was okay with it being open. He can sleep with other girls I just want to know about it. We look for girls together for threesomes and I'm okay with that. I on the other hand am faithful.

He looks at girls constantly online and chats, and we talk about girls when we're out.

I don't mind if it's just a sex thing, but I'm not sure he's separating it that way even though that's what we've discussed.

I always thought it was going to be a "if the moment came up and I had to take it" kind of thing, not something he'd be actively seeking out so much.

Is he really just looking for something/someone better?

But other than that we have a loving relationship, we talk about everything, we've met eachother's families, we have fun. We've been going out for almost four months, and it's good.

Help!

Answer 1

It sounds like your relationship is very similar to the relationship my wife and I had when we were dating. I would say that in the law of averages, most relationships like what you have and we had don't become long term relationships, but every situation is different. Obviously, my wife beat the average and showed herself to be the kind of woman I could marry.

Does he know you're faithful? Sometimes that can make a difference. For some guys, it would scare them, for others, it would make them want to give you better.

Four months is a very short period of time for this kind of relationship. My wife and I dated for more than a year under that kind of a relationship before I even considered anything serious. If you're not in this for the long haul, and you want something serious to come fo it, get out. If you're looking for something serious with him and you're not willing to risk everything (your time, your energy, your pride, your passion, your heart, your freedom, etc) then get out. Everyday you're in this relationship, those things slowly trickle into his hand, and if he walks away, he'll take them with him. But if he means more to you than all you've got, then throw yourself into it. Find a way to enjoy it. (Which it sounds like you are.)

Answer 2

it's never a good idea to have an open relationship because as much as you say you are okay with it, you won't be. you will become attached. It actually seems like you already are, being as how he has already met your parents. My suggestion is tell him that you want to be exclusive, and if he's not into it, he's not that into you. There are other guys, take it from someone who stayed in a bad relationship with a cheater for years! I found someone great, you can too.
you might feel bad at first but go out and enjoy your independence!

Answer 3

are you serious? you are just someone he has sex with. he gets to sleep with you, have threesomes, and have an open relationship? you need to have some respect for yourself, stop the threesomes, unless you are bi, and take some control of this "relationship". he is using you, and you are letting him do it! don't just do this just to make him happy. he needs to be kicked out on his a-ss, and then you need to get tested for every STD in the book. no telling where his thing has been!

Answer 4

First of all if this guy seems to be into everybody and you. If your looking for that type of relationship your in the right place. On the other hand if you want a man for yourself you need to move on........

Answer 5

If he is looking to have sex with other girls then he doesn't care about you. You should be the one looking for someone better to come along

Answer 6

i think u want more out of this realtionship than he is willing to give and despite the fact that u like him so much there are other men who are eager to give u what u want so u are the one who needs to go out and find someone better not him